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This article was published 16/2/2012 (1536 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: The perfect business partner I'd like to invite into my new venture is a former boyfriend I haven't dated in over a decade. I hesitate, for emotional reasons, to approach him with my business-only, mutually beneficial proposal. Yet, he is the only one I know with the wealth and savvy to help bring success to a good plan. Should I scrap the idea entirely or should I bolster my courage and ask for a meeting? -- On Dilemma's Horns
Dear Horns: This potentially dangerous move is motivated by your desire to use his money. You don't need to go to this particular man and start associating with him again when you have a sexual and emotional history. Sometimes desire is the last thing to die, and it can only be avoided with ex-lovers if you never see them again. You say you're hoping to tap into this man's wealth because you don't know anyone else to ask. Yet, there are other experienced people of both sexes in the business world with money to invest in a promising business. Start discreetly asking around.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I'm head over heels in love with the most amazing man. He's kind, affectionate, intelligent and everything I ever could have hoped for in a partner. However, he works nights and it's getting harder and harder to even communicate with him, never mind spend face time with him, because I work days. By the time he gets up it's already 10 p.m. and he's off to his job. On the weekends, the only time he has off, he's still on this schedule which is making it harder for us to see each other. I'm not sure what to do but I feel like sometimes he's not there for me and beginning to become lonely. -- Confused Heart, Wpg
Dear Confused: You could bend your schedules more than you're doing. Work on your long-term schedules three months ahead and take matching holiday days off here and there, so you don't go long periods without a whole day together. Instead of a three-week 24/7 holiday once a year, create long weekends. If you don't, you're going to start stressing so much about the loneliness, that the relationship might cease to exist. For right now, compromise on sleeping hours on weekends. Stay up later with him and get up later in each other's arms.