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Have fun, reconnect, then he'll come around to helping with house
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm a 23-year-old mom of two young children, married to a big child. I've been on maternity leave since September. My husband doesn't do anything around the house besides eat and sleep. Every now and than he helps give our daughter a bath and puts her to bed, but he just turns on a movie and expects her to fall asleep. He does work full-time, 10 hours a day four times a week. Sometimes he cooks but leaves a huge mess. I've even tried asking him if he can do one chore a day (not including parenting) whether it be dishes or doing a load of laundry -- not happening. I've tried talking to him, he gets defensive and we get into yelling matches in front of our children, which I hate. I'm at my wits' end. I don't want to give up on our marriage; not just for the kids but because I do love him. Also I am currently doing online courses, and can't even get him to watch the kids while I do the work. -- Close to Throwing in the Towel, Winnipeg
Dear Towel: Don't give up! You love this man, and the kids need a dad. First, nobody responds to yelling by saying, "Oh My Goodness, thank you. Now I hear you. Let me get right to work and help you out." So stop. This guy is doing 40 hours of work a week outside the home, and is bushed those four days. The other three days are a different story. He'll cook for the family if you don't nag him for being messy. Praise him instead. Take the kids for a walk in the spring air three days a week before suppertime, and let him cook on his own. Could you afford cleaning/laundry help once a week once you go back to work? Can the grandmas help with babysitting once a week? You need to start having fun together, so you feel co-operative and loving again.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I saw this man I like at the pharmacy post office and I asked him to go to coffee with me. He looked flustered but we went close by, and had a good time. Then he told me he was gay. I don't believe him. I think he's just scared to get hurt. I know where he works. Should I phone him? -- Dying to Know Him, Downtown
Dear Dying: No means no, so leave him alone. Telling a woman he's gay is such a radical move it either means he is gay, or he's so desperate to get you off his case, he made it up. It's not a cue for you to chase him harder.
Questions or comments? Write Miss Lonelyhearts c/o Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Wpg, R2X 3B6 or email lovecoach@hotmail.com
Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition April 13, 2012 D7
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