DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm crazy about the new man I've been asked to supervise at my job. I am so taken with him I feel giddy. When he comes to work in the morning all fresh and clean with his hair still damp, I get so carried away I have to go have a slug of strong coffee and talk myself down.
I have not acted in an improper fashion, as yet. I don't intend to jump on the work table, but I sure want to. He is actually a little older than me, but with no experience, so I am teaching him. It's hands on, as this is manual work. Believe me, he has the nicest hands -- and when I bump into them accidentally, they are warm and fuzzy. Help!
-- Hands Off
Dear Hands Off: You may be able to turn yourself off by asking about his personal life. Fantasies thrive on an empty screen for projection of one's wildest thoughts. Anything is possible in an unbridled imagination. But, if you find out Mr. McDreamy has a girlfriend or wife, kids, close friends and other interests, you will find your daydreams toning down. (Hopefully.) If that doesn't work, and he has a mate and you're still hot for him, roll the fantasy forward and picture yourself as the other woman. She gets what's left over, helps keep the marriage going, and is alone on birthdays and holidays. In your case, you have authority over this man and coming on to him could lead to sexual- harassment charges.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is in regards to the mom with three children who has to go to work and leave her 13-year-old in charge. I was there, divorced with three little ones. I had a full-time job from 3 p.m. to 11 p.m. then a cleaning part-time job after 11 p.m., returning home at 4 a.m. Then I got up in the morning to send the children to school.
Fortunately, I had a very good neighbour in my building, who became my children's guardian angel. She was alone in her 60s with no family of her own, and kept an eye on my children. She never cooked or did anything for them, but was available for any emergency, and people knew my children were not alone. She did a great job which, up to this moment, we treasure. Thanks to her, my family stayed together until the day the children moved out.
At the moment, I work for child welfare, protecting the little ones. I have a very soft spot for children and it breaks my heart when people see the need of families, and instead of lending a hand they try to destroy families. To all the readers, please understand there are thousands of children in care at the moment, overwhelming workers as children keep arriving every single day. Lets us be part of the solution by helping those in need. -- Experienced, Winnipeg
Dear Experienced: Thanks for writing in with your experience on two important fronts. It is much appreciated.
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