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Dear Miss Lonleyhearts: I ran into my mother unexpectedly when she was out on a date! I was with my wife and my mom was with a guy who was the same age as my wife, like about 28 or 29. I spotted my mother across the bar, ducked my head down and went into the men's room for a long time. My wife went over for the scoop. It turns out this guy is someone my mom taught many years ago who had always had a big crush on her. They were both three sheets to the wind. My wife sat down and joined them. Then she came looking for me and yelled in the men's room for me to come out. I insisted we go straight home.

At New Year's dinner, my mother wasn't even embarrassed; it was like nothing was wrong at all. I said, "Was that your new boyfriend?" and she said, "Yes, could be, and he's a very nice guy." I said, "He's a little young," and she said, "So what? I'm young for my age." My wife told me to zip it. What do you think? I'm upset about this jerk chasing after my mother. What can I do? -- Can't Stand the Thought, Winnipeg

Dear Can't Stand It: Let's talk turkey. It doesn't work for any one of us to dwell on the sex lives of people in our families. If you are old enough to have a wife, and your mother is independent and looking for a partner, it is within her rights to date whomever she wishes. Don't push her, or she may get stubborn. Look the other way. You may have had some girlfriends she thought were questionable yourself. One can only hope this relationship, if that's what it actually is, will fade out quickly.


Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I made a New Year's resolution to lose weight and now my boyfriend watches every morsel that goes in my mouth. Last night on his iPhone he calculated the calories I ate when we were out for Italian food. I was so upset I picked up my coat, left the restaurant and started walking. He followed me in the car and I told him where to go! Ever since he has been calling and texting me. I'm sure he doesn't want a chubby girl, although he told me he was OK with curves when we met online. I'm so mad I feel like totally dumping him, but he's literally begging for forgiveness. Should I give it to him? -- Voluptuous Woman, Fort Garry

Dear Voluptuous: He may have mistakenly thought he was helping. Give him the benefit of the doubt. If he keeps hassling you, you may want to walk away, but it's highly likely he learned his lesson about people dieting when you reacted the way you did. If everything else is good, take him back. Sometimes people of both sexes just need new things -- like a dieting partner -- explained in detail. Don't just tell him what not to do, tell him how he can help. Accompanying you swimming, skating, dancing or walking are possibilities, but playing the warden and counting your calories is not allowed.


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Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition January 8, 2014 C4

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