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One-night stand OK, but love gives more

By: Miss Lonelyhearts

Posted: 02/18/2012 1:00 AM | Comments: 0 (including replies)

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: This needs to be said for all the old fogies out there who will frown their disapproval. I slept with a man on the first date, and I loved it, and I didn't feel badly afterwards. I still feel great a week later! I was celebrating all the next day. He was only here for one night with a team to play an important game and it was such a thrilling experience. We used two safer sex methods and I'm not at all worried. A one-night stand is all I can handle right now with all my work and university classes and assignments, so don't anybody out there be quick to judge what is good or bad. Everyone has different levels of need and I will be in great shape for another three months. -- Woo-hoo! University of Manitoba

Dear Woo-hoo: We're happy that you're happy, and everything is right in your world. Hopefully, when university is over in May, you will be able to handle having a more consistent love life with cuddling and happy companionable times. A lot of older people forget that university isn't just a bunch of partying and good times and there is a lot of work and pressure, especially if you have a job as well.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Enjoying time with my boyfriend is impossible now that he's grown this big, fat ego and has turned greedy. He got a big promotion at work and is making way more money than I am, and had the nerve to brag that he has a lot more disposable income now. I think we should pay the mortgage on a sliding scale in accordance with our incomes so we would both have more disposable income. I told him this, and he just laughed and I heard him mutter something like, "'Get your own promotion!" under his breath. My job doesn't have promotions unless you want to be the boss, and that job is already taken by the owner. Any suggestions? -- Furious, Downtown

Dear Furious: Sometimes it's all about timing. Your boyfriend just got the promotion and promise of extra money and may still be waiting for it to show up on his next cheque. By trying to take some of that extra money away before he could even enjoy it once, you made him feel like grabbing onto his cash -- and pushing you away. He certainly succeeded at doing that. Approach him in a few weeks time and try to work out a better split of the mortgage. He will have had time to think about it, and may be OK with it by then. If not, write back.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I read the letter from Not Impressed, saying she grinds her teeth while sleeping. My dentist had a mouth guard made for me for sleeping -- no more grinding. If she can't go to sleep because of stress, I recommend this: Cut up an entire cucumber and place it in a boiling pot of water. The chemicals and nutrients from the cucumber react with the boiling water and are released in the steam creating a soothing relaxing aroma that has been shown to reduce stress. If she feels tired in the day, she should stop drinking coffee or soda pop (with caffeine in it) and pick up a cucumber. -- A Concerned Reader, Winnipeg.

Dear Concerned: Thanks for taking the time to help a fellow grinder. Other smells used in aromatherapy -- often in spray form on pillows -- include green apple and vanilla. Because the sense of smell and memory are so closely linked, certain aromas are thought to carry a person back to a relaxing or comforting situation. Cucumbers have a fresh smell that can transport a person back to a lovely summer day and vanilla reminds some people of the warmth and safety of baking cookies with mom. While it's agreed that some of those aromas can relax a person enough to get them off to sleep, the effect is unlikely to last all night -- and that's where the mouth guard comes in.

Questions or comments? Write Miss Lonelyhearts, c/o Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Wpg, R2X 3B6 or email lovecoach@hotmail.com

Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition February 18, 2012 G9

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