DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: Last week I was out with a girl I'd been dating regularly for a couple of weeks. She's in law school and I work full time as an automotive technician. We were having dinner when she asked me if I planned on being "just a grease monkey" my whole life. I was rather offended and told her I enjoy what I do, make a good living and have no plans on changing careers. I'm no bull in a china shop when it comes to dating women and everything was going smoothly until then. This is not the first time this has happened. I can't help but feel like the university women I date have no interest in dating a tradesman; even though I'm handsome, intelligent, and kind. Am I setting my sights too high? Or am I just picking from the shallow lot of university girls? Most of the snobs I find are friends of friends -- no online dating for me. What I look for in a woman is someone with a good head on her shoulders who is mature and knows what she wants in life, because I'm the same way. Maybe I'm over-analyzing or just being forced into self consciousness because of the grease monkey comment? -- Frustrated Tradesman, 24, Tuxedo
Dear Frustrated: How about dating women in the trades or in business for themselves? Most will be bright and goal-oriented like you are -- and may know how to talk with people sensitively and politely. You can't get far in business without those skills. The women you've been dating lack class. On top of valuing academics to the exclusion of other career paths, they don't know enough not to insult someone with a term like "grease monkey." They may be book-smart but they're not well-mannered or "people smart." To be appreciated, you need a down-to-earth person who may also work with her hands, like an artist, or a scientist or even a nurse or physical therapist. Why are you only dating university students? Is that not a form of snobbism?
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I'm writing you about the lady who signed herself "Orphaned." As a single parent, I adopted two children from Russia. If this lady is interested in adopting, I'd be very willing to share information with her. You have my permission to forward my email address to her as well as my name and phone number. By the way, my heart also went out to the man who wrote you quite some time ago, expressing how much he yearned to be a parent. It would be possible for him to adopt internationally and I don't believe that option was mentioned to him. I would be willing to have him contact me as well. -- Wanting to Help, Winnipeg
Dear Wanting: That's a very kind offer and I have passed the information along. Out of country adoption can be very difficult and take a long time, but you have certainly found children and happiness as a single parent. Thanks for taking the time to write and offer your help.