DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I ran into a hot-looking man at a nightclub downtown and we started by verbally sparring with each other. I walked away mad for two hours. Then we started a little drinking contest and then we ended up out in my car kissing each other with such passion our teeth were gnashing. To make a long story short, I took him home to my place, and he stayed three days. We have been seeing each other since then, and I think I am falling in love. Why did we start off fighting each other like that? We rarely have time to fight now because we're so crazy about each other. What gives with people like us? -- Curious Fire Bomb, Winnipeg
Dear Curious: Sometimes the chemical attraction is so strong between two people, they connect with mutual fire by attacking each other verbally. Then they've backed themselves into corners because it doesn't make sense to ask an enemy for a date. By drinking, you two lowered those fences considerably and were able to get it together the way you were meant to. Good luck, fiery lovers!
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have a baby who's just delightful and a two-year-old who's turned into a part-time monster. He dumped his baby brother's food over his head yesterday and today he bit his cheek. I know there's a big jealousy going on, but don't know what to do. When I tell his dad about it, he doesn't believe me. But that's because when daddy comes home, he immediately picks up our two-year-old and devotes all his time to him! Then our toddler is nice to his brother and kisses him and says "nice baby." There's only one of me! I can't give to them both at the same time. I need help from you and your readers as I'm totally out of ideas on how to solve this problem. -- Upset Mommy, Fort Garry
Dear Upset Mommy: While it's convenient to have both babies sleep at the same time in the afternoon, you need some alone time with your two-year-old during the day, so he can be your special child for a little while again. He had a long time being the only one, and now he's the one who gets less attention. He's not helpless physically but he is helpless emotionally, now this interloper has arrived. Stagger their naps so you can sit and talk and cuddle after the baby has gone to sleep. Suggestions from anybody who's conquered this problem would be appreciated, so please write or email and we'll publish them in an upcoming column.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: OK, my new boyfriend is a slob. His place is a wreck and the dishes stink and he never wears clean clothes, just what comes off the floor. He always showers and smells OK, so for that I am grateful. How can I get him to clean up his place so I can enjoy going over there? -- Neat Freak, Downtown
Dear Neat Freak: Good luck with that. Slobs don't turn into neat freak or vice versa. You'd be better off with a person who likes things fairly neat and clean. Is this love? Not likely at this early date. Consider backing off and looking for a guy who's more like you in the cleanliness department and avoid a relationship full of fighting.