DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I ate too much for dinner the other night and ran to the bathroom to be sick. My mother chased me there and started quizzing me about bulimia. I am not anorexic or bulimic, although I have a friend who is. I told her to stop worrying about it or she might drive me to it, and she started to cry. She's so worried about it she made me swear I would never stick my finger down my throat. I am not fat or thin. I'm an athlete and have strong muscles. She needs to settle down. How can I prove to her I am not making myself puke? -- Under Suspicion, Winnipeg Area
Dear Under Suspicion: Spend a little time talking to your mom about your thoughts and feelings on this subject. If you spend enough time talking to her honestly and openly, she will get to know you better and trust you more. When kids are closed, it leaves room for parents to worry. So many people say, "I don't know what my kids are thinking or doing any more. They could be doing anything bad, and I wouldn't know." People with blabby kids are much more relaxed. So, blab!
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Six months ago I was pregnant by my former boyfriend and I had to tell my new guy. He wasn't happy but said he was willing to go through it with me. A few weeks later I miscarried a baby boy. I cried for days, not because of the loss of my former boyfriend, but because of the little person I thought I was carrying inside of me. Yesterday my new guy mentioned for about the 10th time, "It sure was lucky you lost that kid. Yep, we dodged a bullet!" I just found it so hurtful and revolting I told him to get out and never come back. Did I do right? -- Still Furious & Disgusted
Dear Furious: Clearly, this is not the kind of insensitive man you want in your life, so the sooner he started on his way down the road, the better. It's too bad you didn't notice this the first time he said it. Had the baby lived, he's the kind of person who might have said to the child he was lucky he stuck with his mother "even though she was pregnant with another man's kid."
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