DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I love my mother and my girlfriend can't stand her. I live in the house next door to my mom and I like having dinner with her most days and playing cards with her. She's a great person with a busy career. What's not to like? My new girlfriend says I'm a momma's boy, and "why would I want to live next door to my mother at age 30?" She says she feels self-conscious sleeping over. I bought this little house because it was cheap and near my mom and I could help her with yard work and spend time with her. She's a widow. I have one failed marriage behind me and no kids. My wife didn't like my mother, either. My mom is great to this girlfriend, and is always asking when I'm bringing her over. Should I dump this girlfriend? -- Momma's Boy and Don't Care, North End
Dear Momma's Boy: What are you not telling? What exactly happens to put important women in your life off your mother? Living next door is one thing, but eating meals next door and staying to play games many nights cuts into couple time, especially if you work during the day. Could you not cut back and have meals with your girlfriend and sometimes invite your mom over for a meal you cook? It's the mom-cooks-for-son early life role situation that probably annoys your lady friends and living right next door means Mom can see all your comings and goings and she can pop in any old time -- like at intimate times. Who instigates so much hanging out? Mom is a career woman, so it might be you. In that case, you have the control to cut back and start making room for a girlfriend or new wife to enter the picture and be comfortable with you in adult roles
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: OK, so I'm a guy and I have a few lady friends and they all understand sexy times are casual. Now one of them says she didn't know there were other women involved and she could get a disease and I am a creep. She's telephoned one of my other women she found out about and actually talked to her and now she says that woman is going to cut me out and tell all our friends what a player I am. I feel like they ganged up on me and all I've ever been is nice to them and satisfied their needs. -- Nice Guy, Downtown
Dear Nice Guy: If you are after a casual sex life, then you have to advise women they are in a group that involves other women, as well. It sounds like you told each one separately you had a sex-buddy relationship, and didn't mention the rest of the group in your harem. The truth is you had a sex buddy club with no communication between members. Let's hope you used high-quality latex condoms 100 per cent of the time. Did you?
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