11°c A few clouds
18°c Sunny
Winnipeg Free Press - PRINT EDITION
Time to move out on boyfriend if he hangs onto bossy female
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I recently moved in with my boyfriend who'd been sharing with roommates including his female best friend. I tried to befriend her -- not reciprocated. While they lived together, she enforced rules over him like a curfew of 10 on weeknights, nailing blankets to the bathroom door to "drown out the sound of him throwing up, and yelling at him to do dishes immediately after returning home from the hospital. When she moved out, she did zero cleaning, but she's demanding I give her money for her damage deposit. Long story short, she texts my guy continually, and insists on hanging out privately with him. I trust him completely, but not her. But, I don't want to be the girlfriend that tells her boyfriend he can't have female friends. What should I do? -- Insecure, Winnipeg
Dear Insecure: Let her have it and lay down some standards for your continued relationship with him. He doesn't mind standards or bossy women, Plus, he takes the path of least resistance. He also doesn't seem to care about how you feel about her, nor does he stand up for you. Maybe it's time for you to move out, and move on. This doesn't sound like a good situation for you. He's still attached to her in a unhealthy way, and she thinks she possesses him. You're on the outside, alone.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: The is in response to "Torn" who married her third love and now is infatuated with a fourth. It struck me like a lightening bolt I was once her mirror image, but a male. Years ago, I had many "loves," but only one true female friend. There came a time, after my friend was divorced from her abusive husband, when I had to make a choice between her and a sexy young lady in my office. For once my mind, not my "head" made the right decision and we had a wonderful love for 30 years until she passed away recently. This is advice is for Torn: Why were you looking to find a fourth love of your life when your married, have money, feelings and friendship invested with the third love of your life? Grow up; infatuations are great for our egos but real love means you turn your back on them and work on making your marriage better. You may still look great at 30, how about 40, 50, 60? What counts is what's inside your heart and I suspect that's what you have to work on, or down the road you'll forever regret it. -- Lucky to be Saved, Winnipeg
Dear Lucky: Usually the grass appears greener on the other side of the fence when a cloud perches over your present relationship and casts a shadow. Things are bound to go wrong here and there in a marriage and if one's habit is to jump the fence at the first sign of trouble, you'll be tempted to do it again. Some people don't even need a problem to make them look at someone new. They are just novelty-seekers. For those people, the new model will always look better than the old model. Certain movie stars have married what looks like the new version of the same type over and over again, and leave a trail of broken hearts and children. They crave the high of a new romance, and would be better off not marrying and doing the family thing.
Questions or comments? Write Miss Lonelyhearts c/o Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Wpg, R2X 3B6, or email lovecoach@hotmail.com
Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition May 29, 2012 D4
More Diversions
- Back to Top
- Return to Diversions
More Diversions
(1 of 14 articles for this week)
Today's Horoscope
1:00 AM 0MOON ALERT: Avoid shopping or making important decisions from 2:30 a.m. until 4 p.m. After that the moon moves from ...
Poll
Most Popular Diversions
- Tell the building manager and the peep show will end
- Tell your dad what you think
- Tell husband you're not talking to her... maybe tell him why
- Tell your 'best friend' to try women his age
- Today's Horoscope
- You need to vent and cry, then write a tough review
- Move over Usain! Feathered Bolt sells for $400,000 after only 1 year in priciest pigeon sale
- Tread very carefully in foreign romantic waters
- Your praise made this nerd look like a stud
- Hang on, McPuff; you're stepping over the line
- You need to vent and cry, then write a tough review
- Tell your 'best friend' to try women his age
- Tread very carefully in foreign romantic waters
- Tell husband you're not talking to her... maybe tell him why
- Tell your dad what you think
- Your praise made this nerd look like a stud
- Tell the building manager and the peep show will end
- US zoo looking into conception mystery after birth of anteater; no male in pen
- Hang on, McPuff; you're stepping over the line
- Today's horoscope
- It was 'just' sex to him; he doesn't want you around
- Cheating ex-boyfriend not worth the heartache
- Go back to see him again, but keep eyes, ears open
- Tell nasty Miss Slappy that it's over... for good
- Time to pack up your new boobs, say goodbye?
- Your praise made this nerd look like a stud
- Ask your mother, but do it gently
- He's keeping his cross-dressing life in the trunk
- Go back to the bar and see if you can find 'john'
- You need to vent and cry, then write a tough review
- Durango, Colo., area couple gives up fight to keep catwalk for kitties to leave 2nd floor unit
- US zoo looking into conception mystery after birth of anteater; no male in pen
- Today's Horoscope
- Durango, Colo., area couple gives up fight to keep catwalk for kitties to leave 2nd floor unit
- Woman, 80 accidentally swallows $5,000 diamond at Tampa, Fla., charity event
- US zoo looking into conception mystery after birth of anteater; no male in pen
- When nature calls: Kansas woman enters bathroom at same time as escaped circus tiger
- Today's Horoscope
- Calgary Stampede releases midway treats, including deep-fried butter
- Haiku horoscopes
- Can't keep a good dog down: 2nd-time competitor Huckleberry wins 'Beautiful Bulldog' crown
- 2 pounds of loose skin removed from Obie, the formerly fat Oregon dog; lost 40 pounds on diet
- Ask your girlfriend to man up and level with you
Ads by Google
You can comment on most stories on winnipegfreepress.com. You can also agree or disagree with other comments. All you need to do is register and/or login and you can join the conversation and give your feedback.
Have Your Say
New to commenting? Check out our Frequently Asked Questions.
The Winnipeg Free Press does not necessarily endorse any of the views posted. By submitting your comment, you agree to our Terms and Conditions. These terms were revised effective April 16, 2010.