DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: This might help the lady with the female ghost in her new residence. Even people who "didn't believe" in ghosts knew we had a "guest" in our home in St. James. The previous owners told us of "stuff" that happened there as well. I was told to do these simple things: Light a candle and tell him/her to not be afraid and go to the light, tie white or yellow ribbons on the door knobs, and to talk to the presence. I told "it" if it wanted to stay, he/she had to watch over and protect my kids and not scare them. At first it felt weird to talk to "nobody," so I did it when I was alone, and after a while the house seemed to quieten down. -- Experienced, Winnipeg
Dear Experienced: Thanks for trying to help the distressed lady with the tenant who pre-dated her. It was clearly a shock to discover the presence. (Certainly these things are not mentioned in the home-buying contract.) While I have not had any such experiences myself, about a half dozen level-headed people and many writers to the column over the years, have had to contend with strange other-worldly presences in a home or workplace. Anyone who has had a successful experience in peaceably solving this kind of problem is invited to write in at the address below and I'll pass the information along.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is in response to Lonely, who badly needs new friends. Oprah once said the nicest people were runners and I have also found that to be true. If she wants to get out, meet some nice people and get some exercise (which would also help make her feel good) the Running Room offers a free walk/run club on Wednesday's at 6 p.m. and Sundays at 8:30 am. Participants go out for a run/walk and then often go for coffee after. I have seen some great friendships formed there. The people at the Regent location are particularly welcoming to newbies, and it's free. Also tell her not to give up hope. Forty is the new 30 and she can totally meet someone for romance at her age. -- Helpful Runner, Winnipeg
Dear Helpful Runner: Thanks for the letter of warmth and encouragement for this lovely lady who is lacking fun friends and feeling loneliness. Everyone has had experiences with loneliness and it has been called "the greatest poverty." I remember living in Montreal one fall when I was a newly-minted reporter and feeling so cold and lonely away from my new workplace I took three warm baths a day just to feel embraced in some warmth. Wish I'd know some runners then!
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