Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My sister-in-law sent us an invitation to her child's birthday party. In lieu of a gift, she has asked everyone to bring cash to put towards the child's education fund.
I was slightly taken aback by this. While I don't mind purchasing a small gift (toy or outfit) I feel that it's bad etiquette to ask for cash. She and her husband each make six figures at their jobs, their home is paid off and they take vacations twice a year. -- Confused by the Cash Demand, Small Town Manitoba
Dear Confused: These two value having dollars and saving dollars. The cash gift benefits themselves first and the child second. Give the birthday child a gift and don't apologize for one second. You probably won't be the only one who does this, as it is a rude thing to demand cash.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I'm dating two men right now. One is a single father and a great guy who I have fun with and enjoy being around, but have absolutely no physical interest in. I've tried. A sweet, family-oriented man like him is hard to come by.
The attraction and passion with the second man is off the charts, but that's pretty well where it ends. Am I being overly shallow and putting too much stock into physical attraction, or do I just need to be patient and wait for the best of both worlds to come along? I'm beginning to think there's something wrong with my dating mentality. -- Uncertain, St. James
Dear Uncertain: You need a family-oriented guy with hot chemistry. This does exists, and more than you think, but you can't be lazy about finding him. You'll have to stop wasting time with the no-chemistry relationship that is just a friendship, period. Also, lose the hot guy hangout where there is nothing but sex.
You have two guys now that don't fill the bill. Chuck them both. You can't "make do" with one of these guys or the other when you're in serious mating mode. Summer is here. It's the best season to be free and looking for love. Get yourself free and get out there looking.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: When we get out to the cottage, my husband just wants to lie down and read. The grass grows high and the fence is rotting, but he's useless. Last weekend I mowed the lawn and planted flowers, then I got the delicious new man next door to help me take the old wood off the rotten section of the fence and help me nail on the new pieces. Afterwards, he invited me over to his big deck to see it, and have a beer.
As we were kicking back, another handsome man arrived and my fence helper introduced him as his husband. That's fine with me, but when I got home my husband had seen me with the two gorgeous guys and was jealous. "I could have fixed that fence for you!" he sniped. Then he went out and painted the new fence section himself. Should I tell him our neighbours are a gay couple, or use the secret to my advantage?" -- Tired of Working Alone, Lake Winnipeg
Dear Tired: If you let your husband totally relax, you know what will happen: he'll go back into his cave and read all day. So pretend you don't know until you get the early building and maintenance work done for the cottage, then invite the new neighbours over and your hubby can figure it out for himself.
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