DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I got a terrible shock sitting in the dentist's office when my abusive ex walked in. I knew we shared the same dentist, but didn't think to change that. Somehow I thought my ex would change dentists. No such luck. All of a sudden it came flooding back -- the time my ex slugged me and knocked my tooth out and I had to come there and lie to my dentist about having a fall. My jerk ex kept glaring at me in the waiting room. I wanted to run, but I was scared to walk out to my car or he would follow me. I was called into the (treatment room) soon, and I told him the truth and what that guy had really done to me before. I told the dentist I could never come back and he said OK. Did I do the right thing? -- Memories Hurt More Than My Tooth, North End
Dear Memories: Even if you had the assurance that the dentist's receptionist would never book you two at the same time again, you would be anxious about going to that office again. You need your own dentist, so what you did was right. Also, the dentist doesn't need a person in his office who is already scared witless because of who she might meet again in the waiting room. That's probably why he just said OK. For all concerned, it is best for exes who are not friendly to get separate doctors, dentists, lawyers, accountants, mechanics, realtors, you name it. That goes double if there has been any kind of abuse, and seeing the abusive ex again would be traumatic.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is in response to the guy who wrote about "yummy mummies" and guys not wanting to commit to anything. Have the women ever thought of the cost of divorce on the side of the man? It crushes us from all sides. It is interesting to note that 66 per cent of all divorces are initiated by woman today (what are they looking for?). The gentlemen is 100 per cent correct in saying women want to be equal, but only when it suits them. On the first and following dates they are expecting the man to pay (children or not). And please do not tell me women are willing to go half and half. They may say that but you will not get past a first date if you suggest that. -- Been on Those Dates, Winnipeg
Dear Been On Those Dates: What do you want, then? Men are always asking, "What do women want these days?" Well, what do divorced men want from yummy mummies, those attractive divorced moms with children? Sex with no strings attached and each person pays half? Sounds pretty cold. Anybody who has figured out the answer to this difficult dating situation, please write in.