DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I read in your column about the person who likes sex twice a day. I'm also like that with a few additional playtimes on the weekend. My husband, a healthy guy of 29, should be up for that, but now we're married two years, he only wants it two to three times a week "like normal people." Don't tell me to take care of things for myself. I want a real man for sex! We have no kids (his fault; he wears condoms 100 per cent of the time) so I go out a lot to the casino just to calm down from the rejections and he complains about the money I spend. It's my disposable income. Today, he told me to go see a doctor for something to calm down my libido. He said I was a nympho. That's the last straw. Why the heck should I? Nothing wrong with me. He's the problem and I told him he probably needs testosterone in the worst way. I don't really love him anymore, but it would be embarrassing to split up after our big expensive wedding. -- Stay or Go? Transcona
Dear Stay or Go: A spouse who is constantly pestering a partner can cause a strong feeling of revulsion. That's what's happened here. You're after him for sex 16-17 times a week! That's excessive for busy people, not on honeymoon or holiday. Since you two are young and not having children, and seem to be falling out of love, why continue? Neither one of you is willing to compromise, so consider dissolving the relationship before you get pregnant. You'd be best with a highly sexed man who wants children. You two were not meant for the long run.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I've observed over many decades there really are a few people like Torn, who love more than one person, for different reasons. In this case, she's in love with two brothers and has gone back and forth between them. My advice for Torn would be this: Make a list of pros and cons about each brother. Make it really detailed (I like the way he takes off his shoes). Have lots of paper on hand. It will be a long list for both of them. By the time she's finished, she should know what to do. -- An Observer, Winnipeg
Dear Observer: It's not as simple as deciding what she wants. The lives of these two brothers have torn apart, and now she's at it again. The oldest brother could never bring himself to marry again, after she left him for his younger brother. When the younger brother is out of town years later, she sets it up to see her first husband over a broken water heater. She is a cruel self-indulgent woman. Frankly, it's hard to care what happens to her as she plays with the hearts of two brothers. It's too bad both guys can't dump her and walk off into the sunset as family, but that's not going to happen. I'm betting she'll stay with the younger guy after messing around with the older guy and upsetting him again. She just satisfied a curiosity -- a cat playing with a mouse.
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