DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My husband is a 29-year-old loser. He can't hold onto jobs -- gets fired for being late all the time and not pulling his weight. I work like a Trojan cleaning two houses per day and make $160 a day, which is my money. He has his own account -- and it's mostly empty. Only then will he get off the computer and go out and get another job, which he inevitably loses a month or two later. He got drunk one night and confessed, "The truth is I hate working. I'm an intellectual, you see." I said "OK, intellectual, go get yourself a job doing overnight security and you can study all night and get advanced degrees and end up a professor. "And have to face all those nimrod students every day?" he said. I am smart and I have a degree too, but now I'm cleaning houses to pay the rent and put food on the table. Should I kick him out? He's all I've got. -- Miserable Workhorse
Dear Miserable: You don't mention any children except for the baby you're living with, so kick him out. It will be his big chance to grow up, and yours too. You don't need to carry the extra weight on your back; it's clear the love and respect is long gone. Your greatest fear is loneliness -- but you're already dead lonely with him. Ask yourself why you stay with a guy you call a loser? Are you feeling unhappy about your job so staying is a way to feel superior to someone? It's time for you to save up your cleaning money and get training for a job you do love, or be the owner of cleaning business with employees. Then you'll be proud and confident enough to look for a great guy.
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