Winnipeg Free Press - PRINT EDITION

Maybe she left door open sew you'd find her porn

  • Print

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I suspect my wife is addicted to porn. I didn't know, because she has a "sewing room" which was of so little interest to me, I never checked what she did in there. I knew she had TV and movies on while she sewed and never bothered to look. I thought they were chick flicks -- romantic comedies. Then one day she had to run out quickly and I was looking for the remote and chanced to look in her sewing room. Imagine my surprise when there was a movie lying there with a name so dirty I can't even tell you. I watched it out of morbid curiosity, and was more and more shocked. Then I started looking around the room and found a trunk with a little bit of sewing fabric on top of literally hundreds of movies... She is not the woman I thought she was! I don't think I even know her. And I'm certainly NOT the man she wants. I could never do those things to her. She is a porn addict judging by the number of hours per night she spends in that sewing room, which I now discover is shut and locked. (I have been silently trying the door when she's in there.) I have to go to bed early and she is up until 2 a.m. Our love life has ground to a halt since I found this out. I can't explain to her. Please help. -- Can't Perform Anymore, Winnipeg Area

 

Dear Can't Perform: Your confidence is shot, after witnessing what you think she wants. But saying nothing is definitely not helping. Your next move is to tell her how you stumbled upon her collection and that you're in shock. It's up to her to explain, not the other way around. Ask her if the kind of action you see on her porn flicks is what she is craving. It may or may not be. This stuff may simply be what arouses her psychologically, and she may not want it in person. Do you want to continue being her partner? You won't know until you talk with her. While you build up courage to open the topic, look up porn addiction online and get yourself educated. If she wants help, write back and I'll send you a short list of local counsellors who can help. If she doesn't want help -- and you don't want to stand by knowing it's still happening -- you have a decision to make. P.S. She may have left the room open and the trunk unlocked on purpose, taking the chance you'd find it and the secret would be out.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I'm separated, 35, and experiencing the dating scene for the first time in my life. I got pregnant at 16 and married, and never knew what it was like to date different guys. I saw a few different people -- and yes, I slept with all of them out of curiosity. Now I am seeing a fellow and he's very cute BUT he thinks he's an amazing "size" and, believe me, he's less than average. He brags on himself and it makes me laugh inside. I have a very expressive face and he prides himself on being able to read my mind. When he was fishing for a compliment about his johnson recently, my one eyebrow shot up and the corners of my mouth were twitching. He said, "You are laughing at me, aren't you?" I tried to deny it but he was very hurt and stopped calling as often. What's an honest women supposed to do when a guy is saying he's an eight when he's a five -- pretend? -- Inexperienced Woman, St. Boniface

 

Dear Inexperienced: Bragging about the size of body parts is a foolish move, and quarrelling over the number should be below anyone's standards. To be fair, a lot of guys who measured themselves in their younger years started measuring from a different point than others. It seems by your tone you're not in love with this guy, so this is something you really don't have to deal with, except to brush it off. A guy who is fishing for compliments while trying to pretend he's something he's not is too much trouble as a dating partner. Don't chase after him now. You might want to look for a guy who doesn't need reassurance as badly as this man. And as for your transparent feelings, try to get a grip on that. It doesn't do for the whole world to know what you're thinking all the time.

 

Questions or comments? Write Miss Lonelyhearts c/o Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Wpg. R2X 3B6 or email lovecoach@hotmail.com

Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition March 4, 2012 A1

Fact Check

Fact Check

Have you found an error, or know of something we’ve missed in one of our stories?
Please use the form below and let us know.

* Required
  • Please post the headline of the story or the title of the video with the error.

  • Please post exactly what was wrong with the story.

  • Please indicate your source for the correct information.

  • Yes

    No

  • This will only be used to contact you if we have a question about your submission, it will not be used to identify you or be published.

  • Cancel

Having problems with the form?

Contact Us Directly
  • Print

You can comment on most stories on winnipegfreepress.com. You can also agree or disagree with other comments. All you need to do is be a Winnipeg Free Press print or e-edition subscriber to join the conversation and give your feedback.

You can comment on most stories on winnipegfreepress.com. You can also agree or disagree with other comments. All you need to do is be a Winnipeg Free Press print or e-edition subscriber to join the conversation and give your feedback.

Have Your Say

New to commenting? Check out our Frequently Asked Questions.

Have Your Say

Comments are open to Winnipeg Free Press print or e-edition subscribers only. why?

Have Your Say

Comments are open to Winnipeg Free Press Subscribers only. why?

The Winnipeg Free Press does not necessarily endorse any of the views posted. By submitting your comment, you agree to our Terms and Conditions. These terms were revised effective April 16, 2010.

letters

Make text: Larger | Smaller

LATEST VIDEO

Family of Matias De Antonio speaks outside Law Courts

View more like this

Photo Store Gallery

  • A female Mallard duck leads a group of duckings on a morning swim through the reflections in the Assiniboine River at The Forks Monday.     (WAYNE GLOWACKI/WINNIPEG FREE PRESS) Winnipeg Free Press  June 18 2012
  • RUTH BONNEVILLE / WINNIPEG FREE PRESS June 23, 2011 Local - A Monarch butterfly is perched on a flower  in the newly opened Butterfly Garden in Assiniboine Park Thursday morning.

View More Gallery Photos

Poll

What are you most looking forward to this Easter weekend?

View Results

View Related Story

Ads by Google