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Whatever your age, remember to protect yourself during sex
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I recently read in your column about the 72-year-old playboy on the little blue pills. I was dating an older hotshot in his late-60s myself.
One day my guy was feeling guilty after a nice talk, and decided to be honest with me. First, he asked me if I was having sex with anyone else, and I said, "Of course not! I'm seeing you." Then he told me he was sorry to tell me he was seeing a number of other women. I said, "For sex, too?"
and he said, "Of course. I am a lover of women." I was upset and angry, but didn't think about the dangers until a friend asked me if we used protection. And I said, "What for, at my age?" and she said, "To protect you against disease!" I went to the clinic and sure enough I had contracted a sexuallytransmitted infection. The one I got wouldn't kill me, but I had to take pills for several weeks. The only fun was in telling him because he ended up having to disclose all his partners. Ha! Please warn older women not to think they're safe because of their age!
-- Former Innocent, West End Dear Former: Consider the older gang warned. One of the most vulnerable groups in the population is older people becoming sexually active after a longterm partner dies, and so behind-the-times they don't protect themselves in any way. Everybody has to use a condom if they're single and having sex again with new people.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: OK, I admit it. I'm a drinking woman and I was drunk on the weekend and raging mad and I slugged someone and made his head bleed. He deserved it and he didn't charge me, but now he won't see me again. I don't have a problem with what I did. He was drunk and pushing for sex and rather than be forced, I slugged him. What do you think?
-- All Mixed Up, Downtown Dear Mixed Up : Why do you want anything to do with him? If this man was truly trying to force you ( cajoling, pushing, holding you down), you should put miles between yourself and him forever more. So, let's talk about the blind way you're looking past that drunken fight. Whatever you are capable of doing sober or drunk is part of you, and that's the part you need to tame by being sober. You and this man can both be dangerous and violent when you're drinking. Look after you now. It's time you got sober, made an appointment with the people at Addictions Foundation of Manitoba to find out what help you need, and then go about getting it.
Email Miss Lonelyhearts at lovecoach@hotmail.com; letters c/o The Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave. Wpg., R2X 3B6
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