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Don't break up unless your ego can't take it

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm a man with a penchant for "ugly" women. Just like the Charlie Brown Christmas tree, I seem to choose the women with the funny little faces. This was fine until a beautiful woman chose me recently, and I'm now in the strange position of having a woman everyone stares at, for her beauty. Truth be told, my nose feels kind of out-of-joint. Should I go back to my old ways? This woman is really beautiful inside and out and I'm really liking her. -- My Strange Situation, West End

Dear Strange: When your women were "ugly," you were always the good-looking one. You may want to step it up a notch clothing-wise, and otherwise, so you don't feel outdone by your lovely girlfriend. There's no need to break up unless your ego can't take it and you find yourself trying to bring her down a peg, to make yourself feel better. Then it's time to say goodbye, for both your sakes.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: In response to the column regarding a man wearing women's fragrance. Historically, there was no distinction made between ladies and men's scents until about 100 years ago. Seeing a money-making opportunity, fragrance companies separated the two. It worked! In many parts of Europe and the Middle East men wear very distinct florals which over here would be considered very feminine. Here at my shop Perfume Paradise we shipped a bottle of L'Artisan Fleur d'Oranger to a gentleman in the United Arab Emirates a few months ago because he loved it on himself. It's an Orange Blossom scent, a very sweet floral. Most upscale niche brands make no distinction and are all considered unisex. We have many customers who enjoy wearing fragrances that may be marketed to the opposite sex. I know there may have been other issues involving your writer, too, but just wanted to share this. -- Ari Driver, Perfume Paradise, Downtown

Dear Ari: Thanks for the little lesson on fragrance for my readers. Consider it passed on!

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: A man wearing a perfume that the marketing industry has branded "feminine" means NOTHING, just as a woman wearing a "men's" perfume means NOTHING. Fragrance is about wearing what a person likes, and makes them feel comfortable. Bvlgari Black, initially deemed "male," is absolutely divine. I wear it, and have received numerous compliments. Similarly, I love it when my boyfriend skips the Old Spice and sprays on a touch of the woody-oriental Lovely by Sarah Jessica Parker which smells GREAT on a man, or even Christian Audigier for Women which has many notes that are both femme and masculine. It's time to recognize a fragrance lover as a person with an independent spirit who doesn't let brands and packaging sway his decision. -- Anne, from MakeupWoot

Dear Anne: And then there's the huge factor of each person's skin combining with the scent. The same perfume can small slightly different on five different people. But, to be completely honest, as a woman I wouldn't want to smell a well-known women's scent on a man, especially in the first stage of interest. It would make me wonder about where he's at sexually. I know I'm not alone in that feeling.

Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition August 9, 2011 C4

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