DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm glad you printed that letter by the woman who took issue with how you are plugging kids to everyone. But you threw out her point about not having kids being the biggest environmental choice someone can make. Don't dismiss issues you obviously know nothing about. It's a completely valid movement, especially for people living in a developed, high energy-using nation like ours. I refer you to the Voluntary Human Extinction Movement. -- Environmental Choice
Dear Environmental Choice: I checked out the movement you support online. The lead premise states: "Phasing out the human race by voluntarily ceasing to breed will allow Earth's biosphere to return to good health. Crowded conditions and resource shortages will improve as we become less dense." That's just dense. Suggesting we should wipe out the human race to make the planet green for no one, is beyond ridiculous. I can support people choosing not to have children, and using the money to support other children starving in the world. But common sense tells me they would never send the monthly amount it costs to raise a child in this society for very long. Yes, I do love kids and put in plugs for kids' welfare and support people having families if they want them, and make no apologies for that. I certainly don't support annihilating the whole human race.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I'm newly "out" as a lesbian and it feels great to be free of that suffocating closet. My girlfriend and I are planning to tell my parents in a few weeks, but are afraid my mother will go into shock and it will spoil Christmas. We plan to sleep together at my folks on Christmas Eve. We visit there a lot but still sleep apart. -- Want to Say it Right, Winnipeg
Dear Right: Just as you're leaving to go back home, say "As you two have probably guessed, we are a couple. We love each other and would appreciate it if you would treat us as a couple from now on and accept that we will start being affectionate towards each other." (That would be a good time to take your girlfriend's hand.) Leave it at that, so mom gets to swallow things in small bites. The first reaction is not usually the last with moms.