DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m starting to live all the crazy clichéd high school experiences. I joined a school activity which is prestigious, and we’re all close. Early on I met this great guy. We worked on a few projects, become good friends, hung out a few times. I really have a thing for him, and the way he’s been flirting with me hard core, I think it’s mutual.
We have more inside jokes than my best friend and I. But then we had a misunderstanding on Facebook and he called me a racist. I apologized and it was fine. A little later he overheard me asking this other person what this other guy meant by flirting with me. He said, "Guys? F#*&, we flirt all the time. Don’t worry about it." What I’m also wondering about is why he deleted some of our awkward conversations on comments on Facebook (such as the misconceived joke) but kept all the nice ones? What’s up with his feelings? — Teenage Confusion
Dear Confusion: The guy you like was jealous when you asked about another guy flirting with you and he replied sarcastically. The swearing shows he was angry underneath, not just making a helpful statement about how guys operate. And why did he overhear you asking about another guy? You must be more discreet and considerate, if you have a guy you like nearby! As for deleting the bad parts of conversations, he was being sweet because he likes you. It's time you got some good things happening between you to smooth over these recent hurtful moments. Invite him out to a funny movie, share some popcorn, enjoy being alone together and having a few laughs, and see what happens.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My husband has a disability that doesn't keep him from working full time, yet he sits on his fat behind most of the time now he's married to me, and lets me go out and work full time. We don't have any kids and I don't want a house husband who stays home and cooks and cleans like he does. I can do my own cleanup. I'm 29 and in love with my career. Should I get rid of him? -- Assessing My Liabilities
Dear Assessing: At 29, with no kids to harm, the choice is entirely up to you, unless you feel you must look after him. The old arguments for staying together with someone you no longer love or respect are not there these days. Watch how fast this man looks for a job after his meal ticket disappears. Will you want him again then?
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts; The lady who wrote you about her three children leaving the home because of her hoarding might like to join the Hoarders Support Group. Just call the OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) Centre, 4 Fort St. She should call 942-3331 for meeting times and available books on the subject, or visit website www.ocd.mb.ca. The centre is open Mon.-Thurs. from 9 a.m.-2 p.m. -- One Who Cares, Winnipeg
Dear One: Consider the message passed on to the lady who wrote -- and to the many others who know they have a problem with hoarding or have a loved one who's drowning in things.
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