Winnipeg Free Press - PRINT EDITION
Just accept that husband won't get medical checkup
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: Why are men so afraid of going to the doctor? I've been begging my husband to get a physical, and he just won't do it. He's over 60, overweight, eats saturated fats, and hardly exercises. We just learned that his dad may have diabetes, yet he keeps making excuses not to go. He won't even go to the optometrist (it's free). When I ask him why, he acts indignant, asks me to stop nagging, and tells me he's fine. How can I convince him that he can't take his health for granted? -- Exasperated Wife, Winnipeg
Dear Exasperated: It's his big body. You can't drag him to the doc. He knows he's probably in trouble and it's like going to the principal's office. He doesn't want to be chided by the doctor and he doesn't want to find out he has to give up anything he likes to put in his mouth -- food, drink or ciggy-butts. He also doesn't want to find out he's mortal and he may die sooner rather than later because of his overweight physical state. And, most guys fear taking their pants off for a rectal examination by a male or a female doctor. So, make him buy lots of life insurance and stop nagging him. It doesn't work to kvetch, and it just makes your last years together uncomfortable.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Great advice to "Interfering neighbour," but you forgot the most important part. Get those kids to run, not walk, to their nearest Alateen Family Group. It could help beyond words. -- Been There, Winnipeg
Dear Been There: Consider the message passed along.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I'm writing about the neighbour who goes through the garbage. It just amazes me how close we watch other people and how quick we are to assume the negative. But in today's tough times, especially for senior citizens, did anyone think that maybe caring for an aging parent while trying to cover the extreme costs of medication, heat bills and taxes is overwhelming for this gentleman? Possibly he's too proud to ask for help. He may very well just need some kindness from the neighbours. In the end, we don't know his full story and all I'm asking is people should look at the whole picture before they get an entire community involved in what could be a personal attack. -- Weird Neighbours? Maybe Just Needy, Winnipeg
Dear Maybe: Going through garbage in full sight of all the neighbours seems a little odd, and the person who wrote said that the fellow seemed a little "off" aside from this rummaging. It's unlikely just hunger. A hungry but proud person who's of sound mind might take a bag home or get it out of sight, to look inside. But, you're right. The last thing people should do is gang up
Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition March 24, 2011 D8
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