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This article was published 19/4/2011 (2054 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm a single aboriginal parent of one and having a difficult time finding a job. The funny thing is, when I wasn't a parent, I had awesome jobs and worked all the time. But now, when I go looking for work, I have no luck at all. It's like once people find out you're a single parent on the welfare system, they want nothing to do with you. Where I used to live, I had great employers who never judged me for who I was or my skin colour. They loved all the effort I put into my work. I just wish the employers where I live now, would give me at least one chance. My resumé has always been updated and I still never had any luck. I may only be 28, but I love working. I started working at 16 and loved being able to pay for my own things and now I can't do that, let alone buy things for my child. We all know the welfare system isn't all that great, another reason why I want to get off of it. Is it too much to ask for just one person to give us a chance? -- Trying, Winnipeg.
Dear Trying: If you're dying to work, take the path of least resistance for a year or so. Call your previous employers who like you, just to get yourself back into the workforce. Accept a job below the level where you quit if you have to, and then work your way up. You may like Winnipeg, but being here on welfare is not a good feeling for you, or for most people, and it's not a good work reference. Working at a good job in another place until you get back on your feet workwise would be best. Then getting other jobs will be easier again. If any readers have suggestions to help with getting work in Winnipeg, please write and we'll publish your letters in an upcoming column.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Two of my best friends said they couldn't put up with me anymore. They told me I'd changed from the beginning of the year, being a bitch and acting rude and following around one of my other friends like a puppy. If I think back, I did do these things, but not on purpose. We had a fight last month and they told me I wasn't being my own person and I was really fake. Last week they said they would give me another chance to see if I could change. I thought they were happy with me because we were back to having lunch together, working and talking with each other in class, but now they tell me that they're done with me. My other friends tell me that I should move on, but I don't want to lose my ex-best friends. -- Don't Know What To Do, Winnipeg.
Dear Don't Know: Your other friends are right. Nothing will be gained by trying to kiss up to these mean girls. Hold your head up high, and start being friendlier with people who do enjoy your company. Friends in school don't last forever. In fact, most people find that graduation is the end of a lot of friendships, as people go in different directions. Begging people to be friends with you is never the way to go even if you've known them for a long time. For some reason these two wanted to cut you out from the beginning, so they've already moved on.