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This article was published 7/7/2011 (1979 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: A woman on a balcony which is beside me and visible to me sunbathes in the nude. I mean completely bare naked, no bikini at all. I don't know if she knows I can see her and probably other people can too. I am a guy, age 31. To be honest, I enjoy the view. That is the devil on one shoulder, but the angel on my other shoulder tells me I should warn her. Will this cause unnecessary unease when I meet her on the elevator, as I often do? How should I tell her? She will wonder why I didn't tell her sooner and have enjoyed her nudity for the first month of nice weather. What do you think I should do? -- Devil or Angel, Winnipeg
Dear Devil or Angel: Slip a note under your neighbour's door and preface your words with this: "I don't go out on my balcony often, but I noticed the other day you are nude sunbathing, and you might want to change that as you're visible to people beside you. If you don't mind, I don't care, but I thought I tell you." She actually might know and enjoy giving people like you a little thrill, but if she doesn't, you will rise in her estimation by giving he r a heads up.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I'm going to run into my ex at a wedding in a few weeks and I'm bringing someone as a date for the first time. This is my new boyfriend and I'm very excited about him. My ex-husband who left me for another woman, will be there with the witch. I can't stand her. She and I have had some fights over the way she treats my kids. Do I owe it to my sarcastic and critical ex and HER to introduce them to my new man? I know that's the civilized thing to do, but do we have to? I get panicked when I think of this scene. -- Stomach in a Knot, South Winnipeg
Dear Knot: If there's regular communication over the children, it's natural you do an introduction. But, if you only speak through lawyers, why bother stirring anything up? Just keep to your side of the room. However, if you get stuck at the same big family table, you will need to do the polite thing and make a short introduction of names. You don't have to explain who this person is to you to anyone, not even using the neutral expression "my friend." Yes, it may be awkward for a minute or two, so do it as briefly as possible and move on. It's for the good of your children. P.S. Make the introductions before you hit the open bar.