DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm a young male who's never had a girlfriend, but recently met a girl through an acquaintance. This girl is absolutely amazing. She's smart, funny, beautiful, and just has an overall great personality. We've hung out quite a few times and we both always have a lot of fun. I really like this girl, but it's come to my attention she supposedly likes another guy. Now, this is where I get a bit confused. After a night of hanging out with some friends, we went for a walk and we ended up holding hands. My friends are telling me I should just get over her and move on. I don't want to, but maybe it'd be for the best. I'd love to ask her out, but don't want to affect our friendship if she really only likes me as a friend. I don't know what to do. -- Needing Advice, Winnipeg
Dear Needing: Why not fight for the girl? Ask her out. She likes some other guy, but she's not going out with him, is she? He's not asking her and she's not asking him, so it's not that big a deal. You're the guy who just held hands with her. Time to go "walkin' in a winter wonderland again" and kiss her this time! Young girls/women can change their feelings in an instant, which could work in your direction. If you don't make a move, you may find out she was WAITING for you to do something and you never did. What a shame that would be! These kinds of questions happen all over high school reunions: "Why didn't you ask me out? I had such a crush on you." Imagine how the two people feel, when they realize they both cared and what could have been.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I thought my boyfriend was coming up the steps of my apartment and I wanted to surprise him by being bold and beautiful -- so when he knocked on the door, I opened it naked to the waist. It wasn't him. He was still coming up the stairs and this was the male landlord. I shrieked, "Oh my God! I'm sorry. I thought it was my boyfriend!" My boyfriend just came around the corner then, and saw this guy and me. He started yelling, "What's going on?" I pulled him in and told him the whole story and he finally saw it was funny, but now the caretaker is looking at me funny. What should I say to him? -- Stupid Move, North End
Dear Stupid: Explain one more time what happened to the caretaker and tell him you're sorry if he got the mistaken idea that move was for him. That should erase any lingering doubts that maybe you made up that story when you saw your boyfriend coming.
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