DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I went skinny-dipping and stayed naked on shore and in the cabin this summer for a whole weekend at an island with friends and I just can't go back to wearing clothes all day. It's bad enough I have to dress in a nurse's uniform for work. Here's the deal: I am now a practicing indoor nudist, and naked all the time I'm at home. My boyfriend thought it was great at first but wasn't too happy when he discovered the nudity wasn't FOR him and not a constant invitation to sex. He recently saw his therapist and came over and asked me not to go naked all the time when he's over as it "bothers" him. He said he wouldn't be coming over and dropping his clothes at the door anymore, because he's just not into "that kind of life." I suggested he go home and think about it. He did, and he hasn't come back or called. And now I really miss him. Should I put my clothes back on and start covering up and being restricted when I'm at home, just to keep this man in my life? Is this the way I want to live? No! But I do love him so. -- Nude or Alone, Winnipeg
Dear Nude: If this is the way you really want to live for life, then be aware there's more than one soul mate in the world. Will you be sorry you passed up this guy and his therapist? My guess is no. But, is this your lifestyle forever? Think ahead to having children and keeping a household where neighbors and the kids' friends drop in. Will you still maintain the nudism-at-home stance? Maybe you'll find it's great for a few years as a single person and then it doesn't matter so much, except at the beach. This is your time to test out the parameters of your nudist feelings. You may need to find another nudist or someone who'd be glad to start practicing with you. But, if you miss this man too much, and he wants you back too, you may need to experiment with being a nudist when he's not around. If that doesn't work for you, you'll know you're really through for good.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I just met a woman with a physical handicap which doesn't bother me. What does bother me is how people stare at her or go quiet when she passes, and then whisper about her. I watch and I see. It just make me so mad. If they knew her, they'd realize she's a far bigger and better person than anyone else they know in their petty little worlds and she doesn't need their pity or their blatant curiosity. Last weekend we were out for dinner and I caught somebody staring at her leg and I went over to that person and said, "What are you staring at?" Then I walked back to our table. My new girlfriend wasn't happy with me and she was deeply embarrassed. She doesn't want me going to bat for her like that. How can I help it? I'm already in love with her. -- Upset For her, St. Boniface
Dear Upset: Kids walk right up and ask people with visible handicaps what happened. Older people would like to know how it happened as well, but they can't get away with that kind of candor. So they whisper to each other. But being upset for someone who isn't upset herself, is a waste of everyone's emotions. She got past the comments long ago and she doesn't want you pulling her back into a self-conscious state. Instead of being a drag on your new lady, ask her to share her wisdom on this issue -- she will have gone through lots of stages. Get the short course. It's okay to tell her how angry you get. She may even have a mantra she says that helps her blast past people looking or commenting behind her back.
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