Winnipeg Free Press - PRINT EDITION

You can't laugh off work flirtation gone wrong

  • Print

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: This is so embarrassing! I just made a big fool of myself at work. I'm relatively new to the office and mistakenly thought this man was crazy about me at work. He acted and spoke so intimately with me, and called me cute names like "sweetie." We planned ahead to stay late to do some work last weekend. I pulled out a bottle of wine and some appetizers and made a picnic on the desk, and he looked at me kind of funny. We started working and sitting close to look at the papers, and we both turned to talk to each other at the same time. So, I kissed him. He jumped up, put his hands to his lips as if he'd been burned and said, "Don't you know I have a husband?' I said, "No! Oh my God! I'm sorry! Nobody told me you were gay or married; you don't even wear a ring!" He quickly put on his coat and took off. Now, when I see him, he can't laugh it off as I have. He just acts curt. What was I thinking? Why did he talk to me like that? What now? The tension from him is awful. -- BIG Mistake, Downtown

Dear Kissing: This man may feel like he inadvertently cheated on his husband. Acting like it was nothing, or a little joke to you, is making things weirder. So, talk about that mistake and give it the importance it deserves. Ask for a private conversation where you can apologize properly for what you did. When he asks why you did it, tell him how you got the idea he was crazy for you. A gay man may feel it's OK, and not misleading, to call a woman terms like "dear" or "sweetie" -- although sweet talk is not heard much in workplaces anymore because of harassment possibilities. In your talk he needs the chance to tell you about his man, his marriage and its importance. A lot of gay men take their marriage vows more seriously than some hetero men do. The right to marry is something they had to fight for, and they are dedicated. Warning: from now on, in all work situations, you must keep your kisses to yourself, or you could land in big trouble with workplace and/or human rights authorities.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I read your column today and felt for "Crying At Work." Your reader can try to contact Age & Opportunity Inc. if she is over 55 years of age. They can be found at or 956-6440 (ask about a program called This Full House). There are also professional organizers in Winnipeg that work with chronically disorganized people within a team setting and they can be found at This will bring up contact information for the Professional Organizers in Manitoba. -- In the Business, Wpg.

Dear Wanting: Thanks for your help. Many hoarders will peek online for the website suggestion. People who want to help loved ones in trouble with hoarding should also make an in-depth study of it online or through books before they do an intervention and try to shame a person who can't let go of their things. The reasons for hoarding are complex and need to be addressed differently in each case. They can range from an inability to sort, obsessive-compulsive disorder, dealing with emptiness and loneliness, loss of a partner, memories of extreme poverty in childhood, and various forms of depression.

Questions or comments? Write Miss Lonelyhearts c/o Winnipeg Free Press 1355 Mountain Ave. Wpg R2X 3B6 or email

Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition January 17, 2011 D5

Fact Check

Fact Check

Have you found an error, or know of something we’ve missed in one of our stories?
Please use the form below and let us know.

* Required
  • Please post the headline of the story or the title of the video with the error.

  • Please post exactly what was wrong with the story.

  • Please indicate your source for the correct information.

  • Yes


  • This will only be used to contact you if we have a question about your submission, it will not be used to identify you or be published.

  • Cancel

Having problems with the form?

Contact Us Directly
  • Print

You can comment on most stories on You can also agree or disagree with other comments. All you need to do is be a Winnipeg Free Press print or e-edition subscriber to join the conversation and give your feedback.

You can comment on most stories on You can also agree or disagree with other comments. All you need to do is be a Winnipeg Free Press print or e-edition subscriber to join the conversation and give your feedback.

Have Your Say

New to commenting? Check out our Frequently Asked Questions.

Have Your Say

Comments are open to Winnipeg Free Press print or e-edition subscribers only. why?

Have Your Say

Comments are open to Winnipeg Free Press Subscribers only. why?

The Winnipeg Free Press does not necessarily endorse any of the views posted. By submitting your comment, you agree to our Terms and Conditions. These terms were revised effective April 16, 2010.


Make text: Larger | Smaller


Andrew Ladd talks about his injury

View more like this

Photo Store Gallery

  • A baby Red Panda in her area at the Zoo. International Red Panda Day is Saturday September 15th and the Assiniboine Park Zoo will be celebrating in a big way! The Zoo is home to three red pandas - Rufus, Rouge and their cub who was born on June 30 of this year. The female cub has yet to be named and the Assiniboine Park Zoo is asking the community to help. September 14, 2012  BORIS MINKEVICH / WINNIPEG FREE PRESS
  • The sun peers through the fog to illuminate a tree covered in hoar frost near Headingley, Manitoba Thursday- Standup photo- February 02, 2012   (JOE BRYKSA / WINNIPEG FREE PRESS)

View More Gallery Photos


Are you concerned about the number of homicides so far this year?

View Results

Ads by Google