DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I live in an apartment with basement suites. There is a woman who opens her curtains at night and lies on the bed and puts on a show. Now, I come home from work and my car is parked in the back, so I go up the back steps and, there she is! Not every night, but often enough that it's gotten to be kind of a trial: whether I'm going to force myself to use the front steps or give in to seeing her as I go up the back steps. No guy should have this kind of test put to him every night. I'm a normal, red-blooded Canadian guy and I have my own girlfriend, but this is really a test. I always pretend I'm not looking and I don't know what to do. -- Captive Audience, Winnipeg
Dear Captive: If you really wanted to end this free peep show, you could tell the superintendent, who looks after behaviour problems in the block, to speak to the woman about pulling her curtains. The super could say people are complaining about what they see going up and down the stairs. That would be the end of it. Leaving her a note of complaint under her door from you is too intimate, and would reinforce the fun she gets out of shocking and titillating you -- and other passersby. Have you told your girlfriend? Probably not. She'd have banged on that woman's door and put a quick end to it.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I wanted to respond to McPuff's answer in your column today about marijuana use. (He prefers light pot use over alcohol). I've been using it for the 10 years. I suffer from chronic migraine headaches and a chronic pain bladder disease known as Interstitial Cystitis. The suffering is terrible and there's no cure for IC. Prescription medications for migraines end up stoning me and putting me in bed for three days. If I use pot, I can function. I'm not "stoned" or "high" but I'm free from pain and can function as a wife and mother to my three young children. I may add that I NEVER drive when I've used it. My doctors offered me much harder addictive medications, which I've refused. Having been around many young adults and teens, I see what today's street-drug world has to offer them. And the one thing I've heard over and over, is that when pot isn't available, cocaine, meth or ecstasy is readily there for the taking. So, when pot is taken away, it just leads to harder drugs. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for the day it becomes legal, and not looked down on. We spend millions of dollars on rehab for other drug addictions, but not pot, which is better in my opinion. -- McPuff's Supporter, Winnipeg
Dear Supporter: Thanks for taking the time to write in with your story. People with medical problems are in a different situation, but how does it affect your children seeing you smoke pot?