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You can't break what's already broken
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I've been in a relationship with a married man for 16 months. I was his client and he handled my file. He told me and others he was single, and I'd actually talked to him on a dating site in the past. When I found out and caught him, I was livid, and he supposedly asked her for a divorce. There has been no sexual relationship in quite some time and they sleep in separate bedrooms and have separate lives. Well, after many countless lies to me about moving and lawyers, his wife found out I existed. His marriage is now ending, but he's still there and taking his anger for it out on me. I never wanted to be part of this. He made lies so believable. I accept my responsibility. I've ended things now and (I'm) never going back. Do I owe it to her to tell her the truth about who her husband really is? Their children are grown and gone. -- Heavily Burdened, South Winnipeg
Dear Burdened: You can't wreck a wreck. The marriage is "over" -- unless that's another lie. Speak with his wife to let her know what he did to you. Apologize for not knowing about her existence. But really... why did you not check out his living situation? These days, when we are often living in cities with no community to verify the truth of a person's living situation, we have to check up on ALL new people. A snake like this guy can give you a big line through work, and dazzle you with lunches and dinners but you must insist on seeing where he sleeps. If he dodges that (because of photographs and his/her clothes in the closet) you know something's up.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a woman in the airport while waiting for a flight to a certain country in the Carribbean. I fell in love at first sight. We held hands finally and kissed goodbye, but I had to run to my flight and didn't get her number. Is it too late? -- Wanting Her So Bad, North End
Dear Wanting: If you're trying to get her number by writing this column, it won't work. We don't pass along information to get people together because we don't know who either one of you are. You may be perfectly nice and safe, or you may be a scary dude. Single people need to know there is often ONE opportunity to get the number they desire, and they need to get it when they still can.
Questions or comments? Please email lovecoach@hotmail.com or send letters c/o Miss Lonelyhearts, 1350 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6
Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition February 15, 2013 D4
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