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You're probably behaving a little too wifey for him

By: Miss Lonelyhearts

Posted: 03/1/2013 1:00 AM | Comments: 0

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: On the weekend I got stood up by my married man, for the second time in two weeks. This time he said he couldn't come by at the last minute, because his wife asked him to come help her brother who needed another hand moving. My sweetie had told her he was going swimming for the afternoon. I fell on the couch and cried. I had music and food and wine for a beautiful Saturday afternoon. The strange thing was he called again that night, and there was a strange note of triumph in his voice, like he had managed to be a good boy to his wife. This is a new attitude. What is going on? He was absolutely thrilled the first time we finally got together at my house, not a whiff of guilt, either. -- What Happened? Downtown

Dear What: It happens in affairs, too -- the initial excitement wears off. Once you go from clandestine meetings to a domestic situation at your house where you are planning ahead and a big effort is made for the man who is cheating -- dinner, candles, the whole romantic thing -- he's back to marriage. Only now he has two women with expectations of him, not just wild sex. If it's a choice between the home situation and a new domestic situation, he thinks, why would he repeat himself? Stick with the woman who will give him continued access to his family and friends. Now that he knows you want him, maybe for your own husband, you have gone from "fun girl" to "hazard."

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I got sick in a movie theatre with my new girlfriend of four months by my side -- enough searing pain in my gut to warrant going to the hospital. She drove me there -- and then left me at the door to Emergency. I expected her to park the truck and come back. She never came. I texted her and she texted back she had gone over to a friend's house to play freakin' cards! I could have been dying. She just left me with a kidney stone killing me. She says it was "no big deaI." She said, "You didn't die. I left the movie and drove you there, didn't I?" What do you think, Miss L.? -- Shocked by Coldness, St. Vital

Dear Shocked: Why have you not cut her off already? She is "no big deal." Any other friend would have stayed with you. She doesn't even rank as friend. Dump her on her head.

Questions or comments? Please email lovecoach@hotmail.com or send letters c/o Miss Lonelyhearts, 1355 Mountain Ave. Winnipeg R2X 3B6

Republished from the Winnipeg Free Press print edition March 1, 2013 D3

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