Have you ever looked in the mirror and said to yourself "I look good?"
Then, not long after, someone takes a picture of you and you think "That’s not me; no way do I look like that, what the heck happened to my eyebrows?"
It happens to me all the time. I view myself differently than I appear to others, which has come to light repeatedly with photographic evidence and video.
According to those who live with me and dare to hang out near me, I don’t dance well, even though I think I dance great. I can clear a room or a vehicle as soon as a Tragically Hip tune comes on. I don’t sing well, either, which is why I am often told to stop singing or people are often seen putting in ear buds. I will admit they are correct on that one.
Sometimes I think I am walking or running really fast when in fact I’m not; I often hear "Hurry up!"
Has anyone else experienced this phenomenon? Is there a scientific name for it, or maybe a psychiatric word?
On the other hand, when you think you aren’t so good at something, people tell you you’re great.
Sometimes I wish someone would please invent a mirror so we can really see what we look like and don’t have to walk around thinking we look like someone we aren’t.
There is also the issue of how we perceive our words and actions.
When hormones decide it’s time to change things up a bit, no one can predict what will happen next. If you’re a girl between the ages of 11 and 20, you brace yourself for a trigger, wait for it to occur, and then usually walk away for about two hours. If you’re a woman between 21 and 80, it’s a crap shoot that depends on the trigger, which could be the husband, the kids,the dog next door, or the moon.
Men have hormones, too, and yes, they act up. Some perceive themselves as never deviating from the normal people they think they are — that the other sex causes all the trouble in the world. We need a really special mirror for those guys.
The strange thing is, some of us just can’t help it, we are just so lucky to be born with hormones that like to fluctuate like the wind, an uncontrollable thing that makes us say and do things that appear nasty to some people.
Maybe people are just hearing and perceiving the things we say and do in the wrong way? Am I starting to sound like Sam Katz here?
Next time you look in the mirror, really think about what you see and then go take a picture of yourself. Are the images the same?
Louise Hedman is a community correspondent for Transcona.