Loose lips get hit with a bag of chips

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I had a few beers before I went to the grocery store, and this gargantuan woman who arrived at the checkout at the same time tried to push herself and her cart filled to the top with junk food in front of me as she bullied her way into the lineup.

I told her to get her fat ass out of the way and used a few other swear words as she pushed her way in, and she turned around with a bag of chips and whapped me across the face with it.

I accidentally-on-purpose rammed my cart into her butt and said “Whoops,” and my buddy hissed in my ear that we should leave, grabbed me by elbow and marched me out the front door real fast and around the corner, leaving her yelling for security.

I think he was making a big deal out of nothing. He told me I could have got in trouble with security and the cops.

I said she hit me first, but he said since I was drunk in public, swearing and hit her with my cart, I could have been arrested. Was he just exaggerating to scare me? —Didn’t Need His Help, Winnipeg

Dear Didn’t Need His Help: Thank your friend profusely. You did need his help. The fight was escalating and you and this woman had already struck out at each other and connected. Store security would have taken you to their offices and called the police, who you can bet were already being summoned on 911 by worried customers.

In hind sight, it would have been smarter to keep quiet, since you were drunk and not likely to speak sensibly, or you could have just said to the checkout person, “Excuse me, but I was first, and this lady cut the line.” But do you think you could have managed that amount of finesse? Neither do I.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I am falling in love with my boss’s cousin, but my boss doesn’t know. I really like where I work and don’t want anything to complicate that situation.

The other factor is this cousin and I are both lesbian, and only out to a close circle of people.

We met at a conference, but I didn’t know about the family connection until we had been out together for couple of dinners and walks and talks at night, and I heard her family history. My boss and my lady have different last names.

It doesn’t bother the woman I’m interested in one bit, as she has her own business and total job security.

I don’t think my job would be in jeopardy, if all this came out, but my boss might think twice about promoting someone who might be considered like one of her family one day if we get serious.

Moving up in my career is very important to me. Is it a mistake to carry on this new romance? — Thinking of the Future, Winnipeg

Dear Thinking of the Future: This is Canada 2017 and I think you should take your chances. Love is often harder to find than a job, especially in the small lesbian community of Winnipeg, where finding a new partner can be very difficult. If this were Toronto, I might advise differently.

If the new relationship ends up to be more than dating and you do form a solid love relationship, you’ll need to talk to your boss and not sneak around.

Tell her you hope it doesn’t hurt your chances in moving up at work. If your boss seems uncomfortable and doesn’t give you a straight answer, start widening your scope and look for alternate paths to your career goal.

Good luck in both your career and romance!

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