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This article was published 13/10/2015 (1558 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is in response to Dead End (the woman who sleeps like the dead, and her husband sneaks out to a nearby bar. She suspects he would beat her if she tried to leave him).
That was excellent advice with respect to the counselling and working to get out of her marriage if she wants to, and I gather she does, but as we know, sometimes the most dangerous time a woman can face is when she tries to leave a violent physical or mental abuser. This is often the triggering factor to serious harm, which can come even later after she leaves the house and marriage, unfortunately.
She should proceed with caution. Maybe having some people close by when she breaks the news to her husband is a good idea. Also, he may not react violently at first, but later in a delayed reaction. She needs to gauge the likelihood of this factor occurring as well. Hopefully, she knows him well enough to protect herself. I wish her luck and happiness for the future.
— Fearless, Winnipeg
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: It may very well be that Dead End’s body is telling her to get out of her marriage, but she also has all the classic symptoms of hypothyroidism. In addition to the counselling, she really needs her thyroid checked. Cheers!
— Local MD, Winnipeg
Dear Doctor: Thanks for the medical information. Clearly, Dead End needs to address the possibility of hypothyroidism as well as her unhappy marriage.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I can’t help responding to Dead End because I’ve been there. She may be suffering from hypothyroidism. Her symptoms match the condition exactly. Sleepy, unable to wake up easily, depression and weight gain are all part of it. I would suggest she see her physician for a test to rule it out before she ends her marriage. The fear of violence at the hands of her spouse could also be tied to the depression and part of the thyroid symptoms.
— Been There, Manitoba
Dear Been There: Often a medical condition and depression are tied together. You don’t feel your best physically and you feel down emotionally. Once the medical condition clears up, and the person makes other constructive changes, the depression lifts. Sometimes, breaking up with a bad mate changes all kinds of things for the better. But if your thyroid needs help, it needs help quickly, so the situation needs to be checked out ASAP.
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