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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm involved in a long-distance relationship, which is not my choice. My girlfriend took a job in B.C. for a year. She has been gone several months and my sex life with her is non-existent except when she visits or I fly out. In my office is a woman who was interested in having a little fling -- she was bored to tears by her husband of about 10 years. I have been seeing her at my place and we are a great pair sexually. There's nothing more to it for me because we are entirely different IQ-wise and she is married anyway. Christmas is coming and so is my girlfriend. She'll be back from B.C. for almost a month. My sex buddy has asked to see me once or twice while my girlfriend is here and I said, "Absolutely not." This has caused a big problem. Help, please. -- Played Doubles And Lost? Downtown

Dear Doubles: The sex-buddy deal has shifted, but you didn't see it coming. The woman at work has developed feelings for you and is competing with your real girlfriend. She wants to see you on the holidays for sex and also because she is emotionally attached to you now. That is your biggest problem. People having a fling can rarely be counted on to behave politely if they last more than a weekend. You had best break it off with the lady at work right now and give her time to recover before your girlfriend arrives.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I've been sleeping six hours a night at my security job and didn't realize until the workmen came today that they are putting cameras in. Now I'm going to have to stay awake and be dead-tired for my day job. I don't know what to do. It worked well to have two jobs and be able to sleep at one. I'm saving for university next fall and won't be able to work, since it's a hard course and I'll need lots of time to study. Should I ask the boss if it would be OK to sleep a few hours if I have made my rounds and the cameras are running? If I can't sleep here, I'll have to get a different night job. What should I do? -- Need Two Jobs Badly, Winnipeg

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I'm involved in a long-distance relationship, which is not my choice. My girlfriend took a job in B.C. for a year. She has been gone several months and my sex life with her is non-existent except when she visits or I fly out. In my office is a woman who was interested in having a little fling — she was bored to tears by her husband of about 10 years. I have been seeing her at my place and we are a great pair sexually. There's nothing more to it for me because we are entirely different IQ-wise and she is married anyway. Christmas is coming and so is my girlfriend. She'll be back from B.C. for almost a month. My sex buddy has asked to see me once or twice while my girlfriend is here and I said, "Absolutely not." This has caused a big problem. Help, please. — Played Doubles And Lost? Downtown

Dear Doubles: The sex-buddy deal has shifted, but you didn't see it coming. The woman at work has developed feelings for you and is competing with your real girlfriend. She wants to see you on the holidays for sex and also because she is emotionally attached to you now. That is your biggest problem. People having a fling can rarely be counted on to behave politely if they last more than a weekend. You had best break it off with the lady at work right now and give her time to recover before your girlfriend arrives.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I've been sleeping six hours a night at my security job and didn't realize until the workmen came today that they are putting cameras in. Now I'm going to have to stay awake and be dead-tired for my day job. I don't know what to do. It worked well to have two jobs and be able to sleep at one. I'm saving for university next fall and won't be able to work, since it's a hard course and I'll need lots of time to study. Should I ask the boss if it would be OK to sleep a few hours if I have made my rounds and the cameras are running? If I can't sleep here, I'll have to get a different night job. What should I do? — Need Two Jobs Badly, Winnipeg

Dear Need Two Jobs: Asking the boss if you can sleep on the job while he pays you to be the security guard is probably going to go over badly in the city. You can ask, but you might get fired on the spot. So, let's go at this problem another way. Go to the university's student aid office and find out about applying for maximum scholarships, bursaries and student loans. On the Internet there are also various monetary awards people can apply for, and many of them don't get a single application. There are some jobs where you go and sleep at a person's home and provide any help or medication they may need in the night. The concern would be that you would be too tired to be entrusted with that responsibility if you have a full-time job doing something else all day.

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