DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I often walk around in my half-slip and bra in front of my husband and two young boys. Big deal. Today my eight-year-old said: "Mommy, please get dressed before you’re in front of me."
I felt really embarrassed and thought I should speak to him, but he ran outside when I tried.
I told my husband and he said to leave my son alone because he did the right thing. He agrees with him.
— Embarrassed Mother, Fort Richmond
Dear Embarrassed: It may give your son uncomfortable feelings to see you half-dressed. Good for him for telling you! Treat him like a grown-up boy now. You wouldn’t run around like that in front of a teenager, would you?
So make sure from now on that you’re dressed when you’re around him, and drop the matter. He’s embarrassed enough he had to bring it up.
Just let it go and always be dressed in front of him. If you’re in a nightie or pyjamas, wear a robe. It’s that simple.
Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I was out of the country on holidays with some guys, and we went to a stripper bar and there were hookers available. So two of the guys availed themselves of the service and the rest of us didn’t.
Then the two of them couldn’t shut up about it until I told them I’d tell people back home and no women would want to chance dating them when they got back. They looked a little pale and that shut them up.
They went to doctors at home and had the tests, and the biggest mouth of the two doesn’t have anything.
So he accosted me in the bar last night, furious with me, and said, "I have a doctor’s clean bill of health, not that I have to report it to you!"
He has literally turned his back on me in the bar and he’s well-liked by the group, who are acting cool toward me, too. I guess I’m the tattletale now. Should I apologize to him to make peace with the group?
— Feeling Left Out, Tuxedo
Dear Left Out: If this is the way he is, he’s going to repeat this kind of risky behaviour but be less chatty about it next time he’s on holidays.
Try to strengthen friendships with the guys you respect in the group and still want to be friends with, but it’s time to let this guy and his like-minded buddy drift away.
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