Make the bedroom a stage and get creative

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’m a law student working on becoming a lawyer. Unfortunately, I have nothing much to spend on my wonderful girlfriend for Valentine’s Day. She deserves a fantastic present for being such a doll and showing me so much love, kindness and great sex. I really hit the jackpot and I want to show her how I feel.

Cash has always been an issue, though, and being in school, I’m still going to be poor for a few years. I don’t have enough money for the engagement ring I was hoping to give my sweet girl by now.

I’m paying for my education out of my own pocket and it’s going to be several more years of scrimping, but I am a proud man and a good lover. Can you give me a Valentine’s Day gift idea for something she can actually brag about to her friends?

So far, I’ve only got a little poem about her, and half a dozen grocery-store roses in mind. Still, that doesn’t express the passion I feel for her.

I have a background in theatre, but I’m not sure what I could do with that.

— My Fantastic Valentine, Osborne Village

Dear Fantastic Valentine: With your background in theatre, you could easily create an exotic fantasy scene for your woman. You’ll need a bottle of sensual-smelling oil, a few candles to nicely light the bedroom, plus a skimpy homemade costume for yourself.

Then choose a fictional or historical romantic character (Romeo? Casanova?) and put your theatrical talents to use as you massage and titillate your mate. When the massage is over, present her with the roses and custom-made card.

Just use your imagination, and you’ll have this adventure wrapped up.

Her girlfriends’ more expensive and traditional gifts won’t be nearly as entertaining as the evening of delight you created for your mate.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’ve been separated for a year, and in the last two months I finally met a guy I really like. But then he went and made me so mad. The idiot actually told me he doesn’t celebrate “mandatory special days” and he will pick and choose if and when he wants to give something special to a woman.

That would have been me, but then “click,” I felt myself turning off. I said nothing and just changed the subject, but he could feel he was in big trouble.

He phoned two days later with the lame offer of a “movie date or something” on Valentine’s Day. I told him I was all booked up for the evening — even though I’m not. I’m spending the night of Feb. 14 alone and now he’s gone silent.

My ex-husband never forgot a holiday, but unfortunately he visited more than one woman on the night with his sexy gifts and romantic gestures.

What’s wrong with me that I can’t get love and attention from a good man?

— Losing Again, Selkirk

Dear Losing Again: That would be an appropriate question if there were only a couple men left in the world. Luckily there are thousands right here in Manitoba, but they won’t just come knocking at your door.

It takes real work to meet people, especially if you’re not a group-loving person.

But why not give it a year of real effort? Make a list of activities, sports and causes you’re fond of and try to get involved. If you can’t do this alone, enlist a girlfriend or two to join you in the experiment. This could be a lot of fun for everybody.

Then spend six months getting yourselves over-involved in artistic endeavours, charities, animal welfare, community projects and anything else social that piques your interest.

In the end, just stick with the activities you most enjoy and are producing the most friends.

Finding new romance is definitely a numbers game when you’re a single adult, but it can be done if you make a good plan and stick to it.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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