If you don’t try contacting old flame, you’ll regret it

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This article was published 22/01/2022 (1678 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear MissLonelyhearts: I only had real love with one girl, and she really felt it for me. Unfortunately, her parents moved away to another country with her. They made her quit writing me. We were both heartbroken. I still really love her, and we’re six years older now.

I’m writing because I heard yesterday she is single and living back in Canada. Do you think it’d be a good idea to try to get in touch with her?

— Dying to Call Her, rural Manitoba

Dear Dying to Call: You need to try. It’s not like the feeling of love went away, though you were able to get past the initial heartbreak and continue on. You’re both older now and who knows what could happen? You’ll be sorry if you don’t try, and find out later she wished you had contacted her when she was single an old enough to direct her own life.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I guess you might call me a wannabe mom. I’m a successful professional woman, working in a corporate setting, and should be very happy. My secret is that I’m lonely to the bone, and longing for a child!

My last relationship ended a few years ago, and I’ve had a few dates during COVID with trusted “friends of friends.” These set-up dates never turn out to be anyone good for me. I’ve learned how to work effectively from home the last two years, going into the office about 25 per cent of the time.

So, here’s the scary part. I’m in my mid-30s, and starting to feel like my window is closing for babies. The saddest part is, I’m making six figures, but money doesn’t buy me everything. I really do want a family before it’s too late. What would you do, if you were in my shoes?

— Need a Straight Answer, downtown Winnipeg

Dear Need a Straight Answer: Casting a net for a great partner requires more time and freedom than you may have now. Have you considered adoption as a single parent? With your salary you could hire a live-in nanny/housekeeper and keep working from home and at the office when you need to.

Though you may work eight hours daily, you still have 16 hours left to be attentive to your child and get some sleep. That doesn’t leave much time for a social life, but at this point you don’t really care! Research this idea thoroughly. Some kids are badly in need of a loving parent, and you’re badly in need of a child.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I was driving in night traffic in the city and looked over at the stoplight and saw an ex-girlfriend of mine. I honked and signalled for her to stop and she pulled into a parking lot — and jumped into my car. We necked in the parking lot — bad idea — but we were both excited. She’s very sexy. Being weak, I went over to her place.

Since then, she been calling me again. I don’t want her back in my life. She has bad emotional problems. How do I disentangle myself again? Last time was hard.

— Worried Former Boyfriend, Winnipeg

Dear Worried: Next time she calls, thank her “for the lovely evening” like a gentlemen, but also remind her there were good reasons you two broke up, and bring them up briefly — only if she says she doesn’t remember them. Tell her you’re sorry, but you’re not up for getting back together, and say very kindly you wish her all the best in 2022.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

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