Nothing to lose calling younger woman

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a younger woman on a plane home to Winnipeg and we talked all the way from Toronto. I can’t get her out of my mind. She was very mature for her age, and I am young for my age. There is about 20 years difference between us. Should I call her?

— Dying To, Broadway

Dear Dying To: Why not give her call? There’s a 50-50 chance she will say yes. But, don’t ask her for coffee like a young guy might. I’m not saying she’s a gold digger, but knows you’re older and will probably expect you to call her for dinner, not a cup of Joe. If she has a boyfriend, she will probably tell you on the phone and decline. If she doesn’t want to go for the date for whatever reason (perhaps she thinks you’re too old), she could still say she has a boyfriend to let you down easy. You should then tell her it was great talking to her on the plane and thank her for that experience before saying goodbye.

If she re-thinks it, she will have your phone number. Then what? When I was in my mid-30s, I was totally grown-up and had a romance with a fascinating man who was in his 60s — he was one of the best people I have ever met in this lifetime. He died of cancer less than two years later. So when you run into someone you develop a big fascination with, at least try to engage in more than a chat on an airplane. You only live once, and you never know what will happen if you take a chance.

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