No extra ends for getting rocks off with curling partner

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’ve been messing around with a fun guy I know from curling who is half-married. It amounted to some hot necking in the car after games on a street a few blocks away from the rink. For me, it’s been a giggle in my boring life. This crazy guy and I just have a lot of fun and it’s a change from our humdrum marriages.

I will never leave my husband, who I love deeply and is the father of my children, but he has little or no interest in sex and I’m 15 years younger. The guy I’ve been messing around with is in a similar situation, only he’s the same age as my husband and still has a lot of passion.

He and I steamed up the car windows all winter and then went home to our spouses and tried to get them interested in a roll in the hay. It was usually a no-go at my house and the same for my curling playmate. All the same, we had a laugh earlier that night, so I was kind of satisfied.

Now that curling has ended, I don’t see my curling guy anymore. I didn’t realize how dependent I had become on my double life.

Should I take up a summer sport and ask my curling friend to join, too? Would that look suspicious? I already miss him! — Hot To Keep Going, River Heights

Dear Hot To Keep Going: Yes, it would look suspicious if you and he segued from one sport to another together. It was one thing to fool around and not get caught last winter, but it would be quite another to press your luck and keep going until you got caught this summer. You could break up two families and hurt everybody, so don’t go there! Don’t be greedy. You had a wild winter, so let it go. Bright-light summer affairs in cars don’t hide nearly as well as winter ones in the dark.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I just heard the bad news that my wife’s three siblings are coming to the lake for a one-week stay right in the middle of my three-week holiday. I don’t want them there. It is the best fishing week of the summer. On hearing this news, I got out my homemade rotgut, got drunk and told my wife what I thought of her sisters. Apparently I called them, “gross, loudmouthed, interfering man-haters” before I passed out. Well, they are! Their husbands don’t get any say in anything. I say what I please and my wife fights back, but she’s willing to work out compromises.

Not this time, though. My wife says her sisters are already invited and I’m not. She doesn’t even want me in the guest cabin out back. I’m really mad! Who does she think she is? This was originally my family’s cabin, so I should have first claim on it. What do you think? — Not Moving, Lake of the Woods

Dear Not Moving: Not moving out that week? Are you thick? Do you know how much more fun you and your friends could have in a rented cabin on another lake with great fishing? Start looking for a cabin and get everyone to throw in some money so it’s not expensive.

You’ll soon find yourself looking forward to your trip as much as these women who are invited to your cabin. You can be with your darling wife the week before and the one after. Isn’t that enough? Most people would be glad to get a break away with their friends in the middle of a 24/7 three-week holiday with their longtime mate.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I need some advice on why my adult son of 50 will no longer speak or have anything to do with me for the past year-and-a-half. I always thought he and I had quite a close relationship. He’s single, never married and I am 70, a widow, with a partner for the past 18 years. My son didn’t care for my partner at first, but in the past five years, the two of them seemed to get along quite well.

My son and I would take in movies, go shopping together and go for pizza on occasion. Also, all three of us would go out to eat on a weekend or we would have my son over for barbecues. Before he started ignoring me, I noticed that he was very abrupt with me and seemed to have a chip on his shoulder.

The last time I saw him or spoke with him was on Christmas Day 2015. He came over, and abruptly left when a guest showed up. He lives 15 minutes from my home and I have tried phoning, texting and emailing, but have received no response. I always made it a point not to have anyone over when I knew he would be there because he didn`t seem to like it when people were visiting with us when he was around. — Mother in Despair, Winnipeg

Dear Mother in Despair: You used electronics devices to contact your son but didn’t go over and see him in person? Why? Also ask him why he leaves when someone else arrives. Is he introverted? Does he only want to see you one-on-one when he visits and then feels betrayed if someone else barges in? Has he become depressed and/or mentally ill in the past few years? It’s time to investigate in person, not just sit beside the phone and computer wondering why he doesn’t respond.

If the last straw for him was losing his special one-on-one Christmas visit with you in 2015, then that may be your biggest clue.

Perhaps he has lost his way in life and needs to see a psychiatrist. Do you know any of his friends? Investigate this situation thoroughly as it doesn’t seem normal.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

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