Provocative ink not your kink, so have a real think

Advertisement

Advertise with us

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My new boyfriend has a naked tattoo of his old girlfriend on his body and I want him to have it removed. Last night he said: “It’s my body, and the history of my life is there. Maybe you’ll be lucky enough end up there, too.”

Read this article for free:


or

Already have an account? Log in here »

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Subscribe and receive a limited-edition Free Press branded hat or tote.

Digital Subscription

One year of digital access for only $205*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles

*First annual payment billed as $205.00 + GST for one year. This annual subscription will automatically renew at $233.00 + GST every 52 weeks (10% off the regular annual price of $259.35). Offer available to new and qualified returning subscribers only. Cancel any time.

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Add Free Press access to your Brandon Sun subscription for only an additional

$1 for the first 4 weeks*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles
Start now

*Your next Brandon Sun subscription payment will increase by $1.00 and you will be charged $17.95 plus GST for four weeks. After four weeks, your payment will increase to $24.95 plus GST every four weeks.

Opinion

Hey there, time traveller!
This article was published 18/06/2023 (1157 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My new boyfriend has a naked tattoo of his old girlfriend on his body and I want him to have it removed. Last night he said: “It’s my body, and the history of my life is there. Maybe you’ll be lucky enough end up there, too.”

Ha! That takes the cake. Who does he think he is? Why should I put up with staring at another naked woman on my boyfriend’s body while we’re making love?

I’m not a prude and I’m not old-fashioned. I don’t mind his other tattoos at all.

— Needing Her Removal, River Heights

Dear Removal: Most men would not enjoy looking at a tattoo of a new partner’s ex-lover while trying to make love with her. But you don’t present that problem to this new guy. He may even enjoy taunting women with his tattoo, hoping it will make them feel competitive. You two were not meant to be a match for long.

A woman with a tattoo of her old ex on her body might appreciate this man’s philosophy — but that’s certainly not you.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I left my husband many years ago because he was abusive and I was afraid of him. I was replaced within a year.

I chose to stay single. He and I don’t socialize, but we see our kids and grandkids as a group on special occasions. These events are difficult for me, but I go for the kids. I keep quiet, and try to enjoy the little ones.

His girlfriend has four grandchildren of her own, but when we’re with my two grandkids, she literally jumps in front of me to clean their hands or take pictures or videos.

So, after opening gifts and having cake at my grandson’s birthday recently, the girlfriend suddenly announced she was so happy because it was their 10th anniversary. I couldn’t believe what I heard.

The divorce was incredibly painful for me and the children. They blamed me for breaking up the family. They understand about the abuse now, but it’s taken a lot of work on my part to have good relationships with them.

I hate going to these family events because I’m the only single person there, and the girlfriend has to be the centre of attention with her outfits and her comments. What should I do? I’m still upset she could be so rude.

— So Fed Up! Winnipeg

Dear Fed Up: Your kids are now aware of their father’s abusive behaviour as the reason for their parents’ breakup. You have no need to attend these events anymore. Your kids will understand. In fact, they may be shaking their heads in confusion as to why you still go regularly.

So, start hosting your own celebration lunches, dinners, barbecues or picnics with your kids and grandkids. The kids don’t want to see you with your ex and his girlfriend anymore — and perhaps they never did.

You don’t have to explain in detail. Just tell your kids you aren’t going to any more of those events, and they will understand completely. In fact, they will probably say: “Mom, it’s about time.”

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

Our newsroom depends on a growing audience of readers to power our journalism. If you are not a paid reader, please consider becoming a subscriber.

Our newsroom depends on its audience of readers to power our journalism. Thank you for your support.

Report Error Submit a Tip

More Stories

Two-time cancer survivor trades blows with angry Lake Winnipeg in epic 12-hour fundraising swim

Zoe Pierce 3 minute read Preview

Two-time cancer survivor trades blows with angry Lake Winnipeg in epic 12-hour fundraising swim

Zoe Pierce 3 minute read Updated: Yesterday at 2:46 PM CDT

After 12 hours of wind, waves and a painful shoulder, Jonathon Fenton has finished what he started, making it across Lake Winnipeg.

The 62-year-old two-time cancer survivor completed the roughly 26-kilometre swim Sunday, a year after shoulder problems forced him to stop 16 kilometres into his first attempt.

The swim was the second year of Fenton’s Jonny’s Big Swim fundraiser, which supports the Alberta Cancer Foundation, CancerCare Manitoba Foundation and Health Sciences Centre Foundation.

He raised roughly $48,000 this year, bringing the two-year total to about $90,000.

Read
Updated: Yesterday at 2:46 PM CDT

Officer who shot dog dead after it bit him won’t face charges

Scott Billeck 3 minute read Preview

Officer who shot dog dead after it bit him won’t face charges

Scott Billeck 3 minute read Yesterday at 1:06 PM CDT

A Manitoba First Nations police officer will not face charges for fatally shooting a dog last year, despite the Crown describing the officer’s conduct as “concerning.”

The Independent Investigation Unit of Manitoba announced it would not recommend charges Monday, more than a year after the incident was reported to the police watchdog.

A Manitoba First Nations Police Service officer went to a home in Swan Lake First Nation to make an arrest in June 2025, the IIU said. No arrest was made as the person police were looking for was not there. As the officer was leaving, a dog chained outside bit him.

The officer later returned with a carbine rifle and shot and killed the dog.

Read
Yesterday at 1:06 PM CDT

Indigenous peoples are deeply invested in Canada

Niigaan Sinclair 5 minute read Preview

Indigenous peoples are deeply invested in Canada

Niigaan Sinclair 5 minute read Yesterday at 6:00 AM CDT

Elections Canada released a report this week that stated that, in the 2025 federal election, approximately 41 per cent of eligible First Nations, Inuit and Métis voters cast a ballot and contributed significantly to the federal Liberals and Prime Minister Mark Carney making a political comeback.

For anyone curious about how Manitoba fared, the numbers in this province were slightly lower — but still very strong, with 34 per cent participation.

This is a far cry from the highest rate of Indigenous participation in a federal election — that would be the 60 per cent who cast a ballot in 2015, when Justin Trudeau’s Liberals defeated Stephen Harper’s Conservatives — but it’s still higher than the abysmal numbers seen in decades previous.

First Nations voters have only been allowed the legal right to cast a ballot in Canadian elections since 1960, but many in the past — perhaps rightly — felt a sense of complicity in the country’s colonization or, worse, that voting didn’t make a difference.

Read
Yesterday at 6:00 AM CDT

Take advantage of hydroelectric potential

Jerry Storie 5 minute read Preview

Take advantage of hydroelectric potential

Jerry Storie 5 minute read Yesterday at 2:00 AM CDT

Manitoba Hydro tells us that we are going to need significant new electricity generation over the coming decades.

Read
Yesterday at 2:00 AM CDT

Manitoba man lied about abduction: N.D. police

Scott Billeck 2 minute read Yesterday at 3:17 PM CDT

U.S. authorities say a Manitoba man falsely claimed he had been kidnapped and taken across the Canada-U.S. border over the weekend.

Roderick Garson, 37, is being held in a county jail near Alexandria, Minn., after he was arrested and charged with falsely reporting a crime.

The arrest stems from a report police received Saturday that a man had been abducted with a weapon in Manitoba and taken across the border into the United States.

The investigation led U.S. authorities to Alexandria, about two hours northwest of Minneapolis, where police located the reported victim and suspect after the latter ran into a local store claiming he had escaped from his 31-year-old unnamed captor.

Trial project lauded in the fight against pollution

Joyanne Pursaga 5 minute read Preview

Trial project lauded in the fight against pollution

Joyanne Pursaga 5 minute read Updated: Yesterday at 6:45 PM CDT

A city project aimed at reducing water pollution is being deemed a success, despite some challenges in adding it to an aging sewage treatment plant.

The city used strategically placed doses of ferric chloride to reduce the amount of phosphorous, a key algae-promoting nutrient, in effluent leaving the North End sewage treatment plant between June 2024 and September 2025.

The chemical additives increased the removal of phosphorous through the plant’s treatment process. It went from 61 per cent of the nutrient being removed pre-trial, to reach 74 per cent in 2024 and 67 per cent in 2025.

“It’s a success, because we’re removing more phosphorous than we were before … Any improvement in phosphorous removal will help Lake Winnipeg,” said Michelle Paetkau, a senior planning engineer for Winnipeg water and waste.

Read
Updated: Yesterday at 6:45 PM CDT