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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’ve been dating this wonderful man online, or so I thought. We met on one of the local dating sites for mature adults. We were hoping to see one another in person, very soon, for sexy times. The problem is, I’m highly allergic to cats and dogs.

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I’ve been dating this wonderful man online, or so I thought. We met on one of the local dating sites for mature adults. We were hoping to see one another in person, very soon, for sexy times. The problem is, I’m highly allergic to cats and dogs.

Recently, his mother passed away and he was gifted a couple of her beautiful cats. When I reminded him about my cat allergy, without skipping a beat he said, “No problem! I’ll just drop them off at the Humane Society.”

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. What kind of person would say something like this? What kind of person would do this to two of their late mother’s precious animals to “get with” a woman?

All I keep thinking is this: If he can do this to two animals, what else is he capable of? I told him I thought he was cold and heartless. He told me that he was “just joking to see what I’d say.” I’m not buying this. What do you think?

— Not Born Yesterday, Tuxedo

Dear Not Born Yesterday: Trust your gut, which is telling you he shifted down to “dishonest gear” the minute it suited his purposes. This is not your kind of guy, but the online and/or telephone flirting got you through some of the pandemic. Thank him for that, but tell him you’re turned off by his cold cat attitude.

Make it clear things have gone as far as they can go. Never keep people around who have disgusted you as friends, even if it’s going to be a bit lonely for a while and you don’t have a ready replacement.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My sister-in-law, the health nut, is trying to convince me I need to have an orgasm a day, to optimize my health. I’m single, and admit I’m a bit of a slug, but why should I get busy alone and have an orgasm every dang day? That sounds stupid to me.

— Not That Interested in Myself, Sage Creek

Dear Not That Interested: Your sister-in-law is not alone in promoting this line of thought. Sports and beauty researchers tell us most of the positive aspects of orgasms revolve around blood flow in the body, deeper relaxation, better sleep and an elevation of mood.

Daily runners will also attest to these improvements in their lives — plus the “runner’s high” which is a brief deep, relaxing state of euphoria after intense exercise. Sounds like a cousin to the orgasm, doesn’t it? So, running might be a healthy, feel-good option, if you don’t feel like chasing an orgasm by yourself.

By the way, you can ask your smarty-pants sister-in-law to join you a few days a week out running. Don’t worry — she’d be too winded to preach on the trail.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Miss Lonelyhearts

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