Husband shows disdain by keeping ex-wife’s ring

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This article was published 05/01/2017 (3253 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m writing regarding Got Rid of the Sponge, the guy who wanted hundreds of dollars from his girlfriend before Christmas.

It reminded my friend and me of her experience. She was hospitalized and the nursing staff asked her husband many times to take her wedding band home from her nightstand.

For some reason, he didn’t feel like it, and it got lost in the two weeks she was there. He said he just didn’t feel like taking it home.

A couple of months later, she suggested they take his ex-wife’s wedding ring (which he had) to sell and they could buy a new one to replace the one he was responsible for losing.

He refused. He said he wanted to keep his ex-wife’s ring to remember the good times they had before she cheated on him. Isn’t that wacked? — Not Impressed! Winnipeg

Dear Not Impressed: The husband’s actions speak to a lack interest in his present wife and continued interest in his ex. No matter what he may say, he was OK with putting the present wife’s ring in harm’s way, and it got lost or stolen, even though the nurses warned him to take it home.

And the ring from his first wife is simply too precious to give up to buy a new one? This husband should have bought his present wife a brand new ring. This situation is suspect.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m replying to the column where a guy tickled his girlfriend even after she begged him to stop, and she bit him to make him stop. Then he wore short sleeves to show everyone how bad she’d been to him.

I’ll bet he is bigger and stronger than her.

When I was a little kid, my sister, who was many years older, used to straddle me and tickle me until I couldn’t breathe.

It was awful and frightening trying to catch my breath, slowly losing the ability to plead for no more tickles. Of course, there was laughter, but it morphed into terror.

My defence was my fingernails. My sister bit hers and I didn’t. I’d grab her forearms and squeeze with my fingernails as hard as I could and she would finally stop.

As an adult she still has a few scars and blames me for them, but I used my only defence.

Of course, she never did it when my parents were around and never showed them my nail marks. She must have known what she did was mean, but every so often she would repeat the torture.

Please inform your readers that small, short tickles can be signs of teasing endearment, but when it is overdone, it is abuse, even though the victim still appears to be laughing. — Still Saddened by the Memory, Manitoba

Dear Still Saddened: Your sister was torturing you and she knew it. She waited until she had you alone and your parents wouldn’t see it.

It’s time to settle this as an adult. Take your sister for a car ride so you get her alone and she can’t walk away. Ask her why she tortured you in that way when she knew it wasn’t funny and knew was a terrible experience for you.

Put her on the spot! Don’t be overly apologetic for what your nails did.