Keep sexual orientation private from neighbour

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: It’s almost cottage time and I’m getting nervous. The single woman who moved into the cabin next to mine last year was getting way too friendly in the fall. Then we closed up our cottages, and went our separate ways.

What she doesn’t know is I’m a gay man. When I would have a guy up to the cottage for the weekend, she started popping in to visit. In September, she started bringing over food, such as pies she baked. The big question this spring is should I tell her I’m gay, or should I just tell her I’m not interested in her? It’s none of her business that I’m gay, and I don’t need gossip among other cottagers. How do I get her to stay away?

— Dreading the Sight of Her, Winnipeg

Dear Dreading: Tell her you’re not interested in her romantically. She might say she isn’t interested either, just to hold onto her pride, bit she won’t be back with pies anymore or try other ways to interest you. Tell her nicely, but don’t offer to be her friend. You want privacy on the weekend, so don’t give her drop-in-anytime status.

Let her figure out you’re gay, if she ever does. Hopefully, she’ll have set her sights on someone else by then. She might have even have met a man over the winter and won’t be interested at you at all this summer.

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