Accepting the whole naked truth about family

Opinion

Hey there, time traveller!
This article was published 20/09/2016 (3307 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I grew up in a family that enjoyed nudism. My new boyfriend finally came home with me and I had to explain to him that clothes were an alternative and not an issue in our house, and that we keep the living room curtains shut for our neighbours.

My family came home for dinner and were sensitive to the fact he wasn’t used to that lifestyle.

They went for a swim au naturale in the warm pool outside and put bathing suits on afterwards. I don’t know where this guy and me go from here because this is my first serious boyfriend and I’d like to keep him.

What advice do you have for me? Do you know anything about this?

— Ms. Au Naturale, Winnipeg

Dear Ms. Au Naturale: I once did a story about a nudism weekend at the old Crocus Grove Sun Club and got used to it pretty fast. I was there with my boyfriend at the time and we were both in our early 30s. You could wear clothing anywhere you wanted except the swimming pool.

I got used to seeing people naked within the first day. It wasn’t sexy, although you do tend to look at people more the first day. How can you help it? It’s curiosity.

Talk to your parents about how they handle talking about their nudism outside the naturist friends who also participate.

You need to know the philosophy yourself, so you can explain it to your guy. He may or may not want to participate and you’ll have to decide how you feel about that if he’s to be a fixture in your life. You might ask him not to bandy the nudism thing about in conversation with people who don’t approve, as people can say mean things.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Apparently, I’m a sore loser and a stalker. I just lost my boyfriend and he won’t take me back. I have phoned him and left him messages and Facebooked him to the point he has blocked me every way he can.

I know he loves me and we just had a big falling out. Why can’t we just get together and make up and let our love rule?

Last night, I went over to his house and parked my car a little down the street so I could see his front door. He slipped out the back and went to my parents and told them I was “a bona fide stalker” and they had to stop me immediately or he was going to lay charges.

I got home and he was still in the driveway. I started hanging onto his car and trying to plead my case and my father roared at me to get in the house. He and my mom were extremely embarrassed and were apologizing to my boyfriend outside.

It’s none of their business! My dad took away my car and said I had to quit stalking, as he would not offer me any protection against any charges — not even the help of his lawyer.

Why should I give up? I know my boyfriend still loves me. He cheated on me, but I forgave him and I want him back. We were made for each other and he’s my soulmate.

— He’s Mine! Tuxedo

Dear He’s Mine: The good news is there are soulmates dotted all over the planet for pretty much everybody. The bad news is you need to go for psychological help, immediately. Ask your parents for that much. They’ll probably help, but you must offer to pay part of it yourself, to take responsibility.

Stalking is criminal behaviour. You need to learn why you are behaving this way and get your ideas changed to healthy ones.

You need to understand that your boyfriend is not interested in getting back together. Stop this bad behaviour with a good psychologist or psychiatrist before you’re behind bars.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

Miss Lonelyhearts
Advice Columnist

   Read full biography