What will Mommy and Daddy say about leggy girlfriend?

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My girlfriend has beautiful legs that go on forever and she knows it. She wears dresses and skirts that barely cover her bum, and always wears high heels. She stops conversations in mid-sentence just by walking by. Last night in an intimate conversation, I asked her nicely why she showed her legs off to everyone all the time and she said they were her best feature and she was proud of them. 

Then I asked her if she could cover up a little bit when we go to my mom and dad’s house and she said no and changed the subject.

Where do I go from here?

— Shocked at her Reaction, River Heights

Dear Shocked at her Reaction: Swallow it and find a way to get used to it, or say goodbye to this one. She’s clearly not going to reduce her sex appeal to please you and she’s not going to start letting you shame her or dictate what she should wear. Maybe you should look for a woman who’s less flamboyant and will suit you and your parents a little better.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met a man who sent shivers up and down my back. He wasn’t wearing any rings, and we flirted all night at this big industry event. He was sitting with guys from his work, but had been working the room for business. We had a few free drinks and one thing led to another.

When I got home, I phoned my best friend who said she knows him and informed me he was happily married with children.

How happily married can a man be who flirts with you to the point of kissing you on the lips in a dark hallway and trying to touch you up? I want to phone him up at his work to tell him off! He toyed with my feelings all night and then went home to his wife. Maybe she’s the one I should be calling.

— Supremely Annoyed, East Kildonan

Dear Supremely Annoyed: As soon as you feel really attracted to a man without a ring, you need to ask in an oblique way if he is taken. “Is your wife or girlfriend here tonight?” is a good start and if he seems to be hedging, ask him those three under-used little words: “Are you married?” He may keep fudging and ask in turn why you are asking, or if it makes a difference. Then there’s this charming old line: “Well, I’m married, but I’m not dead.” But usually, a sincere question asked without a smile will get an honest reply. He should have told you, but you should have asked.

Married cheaters really need to pick on their own kind who have as much to lose as they do, but it’s far more interesting for practised cheaters to hunt someone more challenging.

Leave his poor wife alone. She has enough problems. Phone him at work and give him an ear-ringer. It will be good for him to get a negative reaction and good for you to get this anger off your chest.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: There’s a guy at work who baits me all the time. Last Friday a bunch of us went from work to the bar and he showed up and plunked himself down across from me. I could tell he had been drinking already and he started chipping away at my sense of humour.

Finally, we were really arguing and my best friend was telling me to let it go. I didn’t. We ended up outside because this guy invited me outside. I thought we might end up fighting. Luckily, a bouncer followed us out the door and sent me back in and the other guy away. Now there’s a terrible tension at work. Should I talk to him at work when he’s more liable to be sober, or what? — Hating the Tension, Downtown

Dear Hating the Tension: If you’re working with a small group that includes your best friend, talk it out at with him and look for solutions together. If you work at a big company, you could talk to human resources with the intention of coming up with a solution, not just going there to complain and get this guy in trouble. It will probably make things messier if you make a formal complaint and set some wheels in motion. Talk to close friends and mentors first.

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