Row over wedding pics calls for technical fix

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: This is information for the guy who wanted the photographs from his wedding to a former wife.

His former bride could have the wedding photos from their wedding album scanned into digital files and put onto a USB stick to give them to him, or upload them to a cloud-storage service for download. That way she keeps all the old albums for herself. I’ve scanned thousands of photos for friends and family. Photo shops may provide this service, and her ex could pay the cost.

— Problem Solver, Manitoba

Dear Problem Solver: Thanks for sharing your solution. I doubt this turned-off ex with the old wedding photos will pay the cost of creating the digital files, but the woman will hopefully go along with lending him the original wedding album to scan.

If she doesn’t trust him to give back the old picture album, then she should take it somewhere for scanning herself and pick it up ASAP. Then her ex-husband should come in and pick up the scanned photos and pay the cost.

I wish them both luck! The wedding is a part of both their histories, and he should have been given photos way before this, for him to show his new family.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My dad was a dud as a husband and father — moody, always out of work. He was very good-looking, but that’s about all he had going for him. I don’t think my mom had great taste in men’s personalities as a young woman.

I can thank her for one thing though — I did inherit my father’s movie-star looks, so I’m glad of that!

Mom and dad are divorced now, and she recently brought home another new guy. He’s good-looking, but also a dud. Do I tell her and burst her new dating bubble or just keep quiet? I know she’ll ask me what I think of him soon.

— Worried Son, West End

Dear Worried: Don’t judge the man, when talking to your mom. If you do see similarities in this new boyfriend, tell her as nicely as you can, that he seems similar to her former choices. She will likely say, “In what way?“ And then you can tell her as gently as possible — and get right off that touchy topic.

Just let her think about it, and she may see the negative similarities, too.

To change her tastes in partners, she may need to get some counselling, and you could gently suggest as much — but good luck with that move!

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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