Getting rid of bad date proving to be difficult

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I met an older businessman online and he was good-looking and seemed nice. I went out to dinner with him at a well-known restaurant in Winnipeg. He drank a lot of expensive wine. I had one glass. After dinner he pulled out a toothpick, and also offered me one to pick my teeth.

Picture this: I am in heels and a black dress and he’s wearing a suit from work. I looked at him in shock and said, “No, thanks.” Then he proceeded to do a thorough job of picking meat bits out of his teeth. He saw me giving him a look and said, “What’s the matter? Don’t you clean your teeth, little girl?” I said. “Not with a toothpick, in a fancy restaurant!” He switched the toothpick to the side of his mouth and told me he was “paying big money for this dinner and he wouldn’t have some little tight-ass tell him how to act.” He said: “You think you’re a pretty fancy young lady, don’t you? I think you need somebody to teach you a lesson or two.” I heard the violence in his voice, got up and walked quickly into the lobby and straight out the door to a taxi.

He has called, emailed, tweeted and tried to talk to me ever since. I have cut him from all my social media, but he keeps trying other ways to get at me. Today I got roses from him on my desk at work with a card that said, “Sorry, had too much wine. Give me another chance.” What should I do next? He doesn’t know where I live because I was embarrassed to tell him I still live with my parents.

— Scared of Him Showing Up, Winnipeg

Dear Scared: Tell your parents exactly what happened word-for-word and about each of his attempts to get through to you after you tried to cut him off. Harassment and stalking are illegal. You may want to charge him or your dad may want to talk to him at his work; or else have a lawyer send him a stiffly-worded letter telling him to stay away from you or face legal consequences. Since he seems to have a job he would want to preserve, he’ll probably stop bothering you immediately.

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