New-year card conundrum calls for tact

Advertisement

Advertise with us

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I looked in the mailbox right after New Year’s — it’s usually just bills — and there was a big envelope with sparkles all over it. I pulled it out and tore it open. The only writing on the card said “Happy New Year!” and was signed “Guess Who?” It could only be one of two women. Now what should I do? I could phone them and go on a fishing expedition, but there’s one I don’t want to see again, because she’s trouble. She’s definitely dramatic enough to have done this!

Read this article for free:


or

Already have an account? Log in here »

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Subscribe and receive a limited-edition Free Press branded hat or tote.

Digital Subscription

One year of digital access for only $205*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles

*First annual payment billed as $205.00 + GST for one year. This annual subscription will automatically renew at $233.00 + GST every 52 weeks (10% off the regular annual price of $259.35). Offer available to new and qualified returning subscribers only. Cancel any time.

To continue reading, please subscribe:

Add Free Press access to your Brandon Sun subscription for only an additional

$1 for the first 4 weeks*

  • Enjoy unlimited reading on winnipegfreepress.com
  • Read the E-Edition, our digital replica newspaper
  • Access News Break, our award-winning app
  • Play interactive puzzles
Start now

*Your next Brandon Sun subscription payment will increase by $1.00 and you will be charged $17.95 plus GST for four weeks. After four weeks, your payment will increase to $24.95 plus GST every four weeks.

Opinion

Hey there, time traveller!
This article was published 11/01/2023 (1313 days ago), so information in it may no longer be current.

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I looked in the mailbox right after New Year’s — it’s usually just bills — and there was a big envelope with sparkles all over it. I pulled it out and tore it open. The only writing on the card said “Happy New Year!” and was signed “Guess Who?” It could only be one of two women. Now what should I do? I could phone them and go on a fishing expedition, but there’s one I don’t want to see again, because she’s trouble. She’s definitely dramatic enough to have done this!

The other possibility is a woman who hurt me badly. She broke up with me because we were getting “too serious.” I was in love with her. Then she went off travelling and moved to Vancouver. I hear she’s back in Winnipeg now. Should I do something or wait for a second move from one of them?

— Mystery Card, Fort Richmond

Dear Mystery:It’s your move — in both situations. Life is an adventure, so call both women up, and at least wish them “Happy 2023!” Don’t text — it’s too cold, plus you need to hear their voices, to smoke out the card sender.

You might say: “I got an anonymous card in the mail. Did you send it by any chance?“ Either way you’ll get to have a little phone visit, and you may want to follow up with more — or not. If neither one of them turns out to have sent the card, that’s even more interesting. Then you know you have a secret admirer to start off this year!

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My heart feels like it’s being burned on a bonfire! My boyfriend and I had a big fight after Christmas, and it kept on going for days, so he broke up with me on New Year’s Eve.

He got really drunk and said mean and cruel things about me being a “loser.” Then, he told me he didn’t want to go into the new year “dragging my butt” with him!

Right… that was not his real reason. I heard through the grapevine today that he has a new girlfriend going at his work. How long has that been going on? I know they sometimes worked the night shift alone, just the two of them. My friends tell me I should be glad he’s gone, but I hurt so bad, I just want to hurt him back!

There’s another side to this problem. His best friend has been calling me, and I know he really likes me. If I got with him, it would pay my boyfriend back. He might finally be hurt, and realize what he’s lost. I was really good to him and gave him everything he wanted, whenever he wanted it. Please help me know what to do. I hurt so much!

— Got Nobody Now, West End

Dear Got Nobody:Inciting jealousy doesn’t work — unless both original partners want to be back together again. Frankly, this boyfriend sounds like he’s totally finished with your relationship.

You’d just be disrespecting yourself if you just “got with” this other guy out of spite. Sadly, your ex-boyfriend’s buddy sounds like a guy who may really care about you, and it’d wound him to be used. Guys have the same basic feelings women do, but sometimes just hide them better.

Too often young people ignore their other friendships when they start going steady, and then they’re afraid to break up, because it’s the only “friend” they have left. The thought of the loneliness ahead can be terrifying.

You need to reconnect with old friends and relatives, who’ll be glad to have you closer. Then you can branch out to include a boyfriend, and if it doesn’t go well, you can safely let him go.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

Our newsroom depends on a growing audience of readers to power our journalism. If you are not a paid reader, please consider becoming a subscriber.

Our newsroom depends on its audience of readers to power our journalism. Thank you for your support.

Report Error Submit a Tip

More Stories

Development turning long-vacant gas station in Selkirk into commercial hub

By Tiago Resko 2 minute read Preview

Development turning long-vacant gas station in Selkirk into commercial hub

By Tiago Resko 2 minute read Thursday, Aug. 13, 2026

A plot of land that has sat vacant in Selkirk for 30 years is being redeveloped to host new businesses in the heart of the city.

The former gas station site on Main Street — between Rosser and Pacific avenues — will be turned into a commercial hub that will be home to six local businesses, and will be a big stepping stone for economic growth in Selkirk, Mayor Larry Johannson said Thursday.

“For decades this site has been a reminder of what once was. Today, it represents what is possible when investors see the potential of our community and choose to be a part of its future,” he said in a news release announcing the project and Thursday’s groundbreaking.

“This development reflects confidence in Selkirk, our economy and the direction we are heading.”

Read
Thursday, Aug. 13, 2026

PCs say Hutterite colonies singled out by Bill 21

Alex Lambert 3 minute read Preview

PCs say Hutterite colonies singled out by Bill 21

Alex Lambert 3 minute read Friday, Aug. 14, 2026

SOURIS — Members of Hutterite colonies in the province took aim at the NDP government’s proposed changes to drinking water legislation during a public meeting Thursday in Souris.

The meeting was hosted by Progressive Conservative MLA Colleen Robbins (Spruce Woods) to hear from rural residents about their concerns over Bill 21, which the government says will improve oversight on wells and other water systems in the province.

“There’s not enough clarity, but I feel that the overreach that this bill will bring is not clearly defined, and it could have a lot of negative consequences,” attendee Gilbert Hofer, a member of Green Acres colony near Wawanesa, said after the meeting, which drew about 20 people.

The legislation would allow public health officers to designate the type of water source based on its intended use, water quality and use duration rather than solely the number of connections it has.

Read
Friday, Aug. 14, 2026

Big Loser’s latest a winning mix of country, folk

Ben Waldman 4 minute read Preview

Big Loser’s latest a winning mix of country, folk

Ben Waldman 4 minute read Yesterday at 6:00 AM CDT

The yellow trucker hat for sale on Facebook Marketplace said “Selkirk Lumber,” so Adam Wayne Brown knew he had to hammer home a deal.

Like the other millennial members of Winnipeg folk-country band Big Loser, the bassist has an affinity for the nostalgic, taking every opportunity — through music, through lyrics and through wardrobe — to recall the unique circumstances of growing up in a changing Interlake.

“I remember the matte yellow trucks driving around — the lumber trucks — and so I’ve had this strange memory of something disappearing from my youth and then persisting,” says Brown, who, like the band’s frontman Alex Paradoski, moved to Winnipeg more than a decade ago.

“I have a photo of the Lockport Bridge in my dining room,” chimes in Paradoski, whose first job as a teenager was bunning wieners and chopping fries at Skinner’s, a drive-in mainstay since 1929 along Highway 44.

Read
Yesterday at 6:00 AM CDT

Sea Bears finish on top

Joshua Frey-Sam 6 minute read Preview

Sea Bears finish on top

Joshua Frey-Sam 6 minute read Yesterday at 8:27 PM CDT

Beauty. Bliss. Ecstasy.

That is how Aug. 15, 2026 will be remembered in Winnipeg.

What was once a pipe dream in the city’s hoops community became an epic reality on Saturday, when Simon Hildebrandt, who grew up playing on the courts of this very town, made good on a three-pointer from the wing to crown the Winnipeg Sea Bears Canadian Elite Basketball League champions.

A storybook ending to a 98-84 victory over the Brampton Honey Badgers sent a CEBL attendance record of 12,519 fans into pandemonium at Canada Life Centre and capped a Finals run for the ages — one that was fraught with injury, impromptu player exits and unprecedented circumstances.

Read
Yesterday at 8:27 PM CDT

Trailblazing Western Scrap Metals heavy-equipment operator relishes role at massive crane’s control

David Sanderson 7 minute read Preview

Trailblazing Western Scrap Metals heavy-equipment operator relishes role at massive crane’s control

David Sanderson 7 minute read Friday, Aug. 14, 2026

Less than five per cent of heavy-equipment operators in the country are women but that number is trending upward, according to a study conducted by trade magazine Crane & Hoist Canada.

It was reported that in Ontario roughly eight per cent of jobs in the transport and heavy-equipment field are currently held by women. Furthermore, in 2024 almost 20 per cent of graduates at an Edmonton-based heavy-equipment operator training school were female, the article stated.

That brings us to Harmony Guspodarchuk, the first female crane operator in the 70-year history of Western Scrap Metals, a family-owned business at 18 Sutherland Ave.

Three years ago, Guspodarchuk literally stepped into the driver’s seat of a 27,500-kilogram, Liebherr C 924 Heavy Lift Litronic crane. The 29-year-old hasn’t looked back much since.

Read
Friday, Aug. 14, 2026

WRHA directs three care homes to accommodate surge of hospital patients

Malak Abas 5 minute read Preview

WRHA directs three care homes to accommodate surge of hospital patients

Malak Abas 5 minute read Friday, Aug. 14, 2026

The Winnipeg Regional Health Authority has directed three long-term care centres to make space for hospital patients, citing “exceptionally high demand for care across the health-care system.”

Read
Friday, Aug. 14, 2026