Fling with fiery neighbour spells suite sorrow

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DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: A neighbour guy I have the hots for has just helped his girlfriend (his second since I moved in) move out of his suite in our block. Yay! He just threw the last item of hers over his balcony rail — a pink comforter that floated down to the truck.

Not that I’m a spy, but it’s hard to miss what’s been happening recently. Those two had noisy arguments and hot make-up sessions I could hear through my walls!

My problem now? This girlfriend was barely out a few hours, and the neighbour guy came over to apologize for the noise. Then he tried to chat me up! I’ll give him this — he’s a funny, laugh-a-minute guy.

He’s tempting me with his flirting, but I know he’s trouble. I’m sure he has a terrible track record in relationships, but I’m no slouch in the dating department myself. It’s enticing to grab this opportunity to get to know him better. Yes, I know it probably wouldn’t be permanent with a guy like him, but then he hasn’t met a girl like me before either!

— Living Dangerously? St. James

Dear Living Dangerously: You already know this guy’s relationships go bad after a couple of months, but he’s the one who remains secure in the suite when it’s finished.

How would you like to have a wild affair with him, break up in hurt and anger, and need to a new apartment ASAP, or have to stay and listen to him through the wall with his next girlfriend?

Be smart! and give him a pass, and keep yourself securely housed while he continues with his merry-go-round.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have two of the three men I need in my life, according to how my dad instructed me. I have the boyfriend and the best male friend for life, but I have never understood why I also need a third guy — a casual buddy who’s single. Please advise.

— Careful Lady, West End

Dear Careful Lady: If you have a single male buddy, it keeps a new boyfriend on his toes. It also provides protection against new guys you meet out in the dating world, who might be less than respectful with you, or even get nasty. Then you may need to get away from them in the middle of a date.

So why can’t your best male friend also be your man buddy? Because over many years, he will find a girlfriend of his own, which should be fine by you, as you are really just close friends and advisers. A single male buddy is much more available to help you out.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I suspect my girlfriend is fibbing about a lot of things. I don’t know her friends or family, because she’s from the U.S., but is going to university here. She does a lot of boasting, but I’ve been checking her family out online and they seem to have very modest means. Her dad has a little sports shop.

I’m not looking to get married to her, but I do think she’s getting serious about me, and I come from a well-to-do business family. She keeps hinting she wants me to take her to meet my family, but I’m dodging all her efforts. How do I handle this? My mom is a barracuda, and very protective of me.

— Reluctant Boyfriend, Bridgwater

Dear Reluctant: You’re already looking down your nose at this new mate. Whether she sees you as a stepping stone or truly loves you for yourself, she’s really the one in danger. You need to marry a woman with a job that will earn enough money to impress both you and your protective mama.

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts c/o the Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Mountain Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6.

Maureen Scurfield
Advice columnist

Maureen Scurfield writes the Miss Lonelyhearts advice column.

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