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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have not had a decent girlfriend for years. I just hang out with the guys and go to Las Vegas. When I’m there, I play poker and pay for the pleasure of being with a woman. It’s just easier that way, and I have always liked things easy.

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I have not had a decent girlfriend for years. I just hang out with the guys and go to Las Vegas. When I’m there, I play poker and pay for the pleasure of being with a woman. It’s just easier that way, and I have always liked things easy.

My parents had it hard. They worked every day and some evenings to give their kids a good life. I don’t think they had any fun. Now they’ve split and my mom is bitter. My dad has another woman. Today I celebrate my 40th birthday and there is no one in my life except my dog. I’ve even had a few guys making passes at me because they think a 40-year-old man who has never had a serious girlfriend must be gay. I know I’m at some kind of life crisis, but I don’t know what to do.

— Empty Life, Highrise, Downtown

 

Dear Empty Life: You don’t want to “rinse and repeat” until you’re in the grave. It’s time to get a professional to help you sort out your life, and the hang-ups that keep you from falling in love and having a grown-up relationship, which might include a wife and family, fun with your friends and a regular sex life with your wife. So, find a psychologist or three and go for some trial visits until you find somebody who seems right for you. Take a year to explore your own head, travel to see the world outside of casinos and investigate different lifestyles. Instead of spending so much money at the gambling tables, take a chance on changing your whole life.

 

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: This is regarding Spiritual Lady whose husband feels that the neighbours celebrating Halloween “looks like the devil’s work” and they will burn in hell. The reality is that Halloween is a Christian celebration, so I would suggest he live and let live because there is a lot of ignorant hatred in this world, and as a spiritual man, he need not be part of it. I’ll bet his neighbours will forgive him when he apologizes. I enjoy your column. Best regards.

— SY, Winnipeg

 

Dear SY: When he apologizes? That’s a good one! Actually, there’s a lot debate over whether Halloween started as a pagan or Christian custom, although it did precede the Christian All Hallows celebrations by one night and end up called All Hallows Eve. Others say Halloween first had to do with fears and beliefs about the dead and warding off evil spirits by dressing up and beating them at their own game, rather than anything Christian.

 

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