Don’t break brother’s face — let girl break his heart

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Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I took my girlfriend home to meet my family on the farm and she took one look at my younger brother, and that was it. They just looked at each other and there was some kind of weird physical thing in the room like lasers between them. During the family dinner, my girlfriend kept staring at him, asking questions and making jokes in his direction. After dinner, he asked her if she’d like a tour of the farm and off she went with him. After 30 minutes, I went out into the darkness, walked a bit and heard some giggling. I found them against a tree all over each other.

I said to my brother, “I’m going home now. Mom and dad will take her home once she gets dressed, and I’ll be back real soon to kick your ass, bro.” Then I went in the house and told my parents what I had seen and asked them to take her back to the city. I told them: “I’ll be back to kick his ass and don’t interfere.”

I haven’t been back to the farm because I realized within a day or two that I didn’t love her (she was good in bed, but a super ditz) and that she will cheat on him when the next hot guy comes along. I did a little reputation research and found out she has left a long trail of guys behind who got messed over by her. Still, my brother shouldn’t be allowed to get away with this. I’m not stupid enough to go to jail for assault over him. What else can I do?

— Older Bro, Selkirk

Dear Older Bro: He doesn’t know when you’re going to show up and fight him, so he’s probably looking over his shoulder and watching for your truck to pull into the farm. You know this woman is a habitual cheater and not worth fighting for, and she’s going to hurt him soon enough. So you could just leave it alone, and then gloat, or you might drop it to someone who will be sure to gossip to your brother that she’s pulled this kind of dirty trick on other guys. This is not a woman who likes men.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a college-age guy. I met a bunch of people on a cycling weekend in the summer and we had a great time. One of them was going away to school. He recently emailed me and said he would be back for Christmas and would like to see me for dinner. It seemed strange to me. It’s early November and he’s already writing to ask me to have dinner in December. Why? Why wouldn’t he just wait until Christmas holidays and phone or email when he get here? Do you think he’s gay and has a thing for me?

— Sneaking Suspicion, Winnipeg

Dear Sneaking Suspicion: Were you good friends on the trail? He’s from out of town, likes you and wants to make sure he sees you on his return trip. It sounds like a bit of anxious over-planning, which makes me wonder if there is some romantic interest on his part. If you’re interested too, make sure you free up some time to have dinner and ease his mind by making a date. If you’re not interested beyond friendship, be open and honest about it so there are no hurt feelings and you can continue that friendship.

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